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Knowing Self Through NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

Intent to leave a POSITIVE IMPACT on every single person either consciously or unconsciously via any medium. (ONE MOMENT CHANGES REALITY)


How NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) works?

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a highly positive resource that should only ever be used in an ethical manner to brainwash individuals to reach the best version of themselves.

In the early 1970’s in California,Richard Bandler and Dr John Grinder studied people deemed to have excellent communication skills as they believed that there was a connection between the neurological processes, language and behaviors and that through programming, individuals can amend or change their thoughts and behaviors so to achieve designated goals.

Although NLP has its roots firmly embedded in a therapeutic setting, there is a need to draw upon the linguistic skills which are required for good communication on a daily basis.Studies show that NLP can be successfully used in every walk of life and used in a way to transform themselves and others.

NLP is used by a vast array of professional people including salespeople, life coaches, teachers, managers, doctors etc. Everyone who learns the techniques and utilizes them regularly, will refine them in their own style and also learn to communicate in their own way.

Although some will say that NLP can be used unethically, this is certainly not the way that NLP was designed. In the main however, we all influence others and we do this very naturally. Therefore, the whole ethos of NLP is to use these newly-developed skills with integrity. One way to find out if you are using NLP in an ethical manner is to consider whether your intent will benefit another person or whether the benefit is to you alone.

There are four pillars i.e. the foundations of NLP including:
1) Rapport

Rapport is an essential part of everyday life. It is all about building relationships with others and is perhaps one of the most well-known elements of NLP.

2) Sensory awareness

Sensory awareness is important. When you use your senses correctly, you become aware of all around you.

3) Outcome thinking

In NLP, this term relates to your thinking about what you want to achieve. It affords you the principles leading toward a designated outcome and helps you to make better decisions.

4) Behavioral flexibility

This simply means being adaptive in life, learning to take a different approach if the
methodology you are using is not working.

The terminology may be different to expressions,you will see the term ‘the map is not the territory’ expressed in a great deal in NLP. It simply means that each person has a unique map or perspective of how they view the world around them and how it operates. If you consider that two people can face exactly the same situation and yet perceive it differently due to their own personal experiences and learning, this equals their personal maps.

NLP is nothing strange or magical,it cannot change the world around you. All it can do or does effectively, is to help you to change the way you personally observe and ultimately, perceive your world. It affords you the possibility of building a new map with far greater details which can be far more effective on a day-to-day basis. Equally, it affords you an understanding of the patterns of behavior that others may use so you can connect with them.

Through NLP people realize that failed communications are often a result of their inability to not notice or to appreciate the views of others.They believe solely in their own reality which can be correct or faulty depending on their life experiences. With clarity, people are able to develop a new map and where aspects are less than accurate, adapt, simply by changing their way of thinking. So life generally improves. Therefore, NLP actually increases your options in life enabling you to be far more open so that you can question or even challenge your beliefs.

It’s true that some spend too much time focusing on negativity, but if the
mind can be programmed to instead focus on all that is positive, change and positive results can be achieved rapidly.

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Of course, the responsibility to change lives is down to the individual. If when you are reading this and you are closed to the prospect of change, you will not maximize your potential. It is as simple as that. In the same way, if you are reaching out to others, helping them to change, and they are closed, progress will not be made.

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Questions one must ask oneself to make a CHANGE (NLP Technique)


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Harshita AC


Prashanth on September 21, 2020:

A very good post. Congratulations.

NLP like any other technique has pros & cons. Below is just an example of a practical implementation. Just sharing. FYI only, as I felt it's a good read. Thanks & Best wishes..

Here is an instance – I just did it to prove a point to a captain sans ethos, who lost his bearings . This is NOT who I am

A quarter century ago, I had walked into a captains cabin to take over command of the ship. The outgoing master was in animated conference with the bosun and the ships laundryman. From the laundryman’s “ I don’t give a damn “ , body language I could see that he that he was on the warpath.

Both sailors were sent away and we settled down to the formal process of handing / taking over command. I could see that the outgoing captain could not harness his mind to the job—his mind was chattering . So I asked him, what transpired with the laundryman.

To cut a long story short, the laundryman had refused to do a particular job. He was right, and he had a point. For he was employed to wash stewards uniforms ( white tunics and pants ) – not civilian clothes. At the same time the stewards had a point, as they had won civilian clothes on duty due to water rationing at a long anchorage.

I told the captain “ you just call him back and I will make him agree to what he refused to do , just a few minutes ago— even if he was sacked or his knee caps were broken”.

I then took a A4 size paper and wrote down 10 questions , whose answers required the answer YES. The last and 10th question would be “ are you willing to wash the clothes , you refused to wash” .

The captain was clean bowled.

Here was a guy telling that he could do the impossible. He wanted to see the questionnaire , and I gave it to him. All I wanted him to do was sit in the bedroom behind the curtains and hear the proceedings—to check if I followed the script.

So pretty soon the bosun and laundryman were called back.

I shot off the first question, after introducing myself as the new captain.

1)Are you the laundryman ?—YES

2)Is you name Mr so and so? – YES

3)You have come to the ship to earn money for your family?—YES

4)You have refused to wash the stewards civilian clothes?—YES ( he started to give an explanation –I stopped him by raising my hand )

5)These civilian clothes were worn during water rationing –YES

6th to 9th is classified-


The average human mind is not programmed or intelligent enough to open its doors wide and then suddenly slam shut.

If you can indeed slam it shut and give NO answer after 9 consecutive YES answers –then you are a super genius—like the legendary James Bond.

Mythily on July 29, 2020:

A very good start Harshitha, an interesting topic too which may find wide usage in future to benefit people in their thought process and consequential behaviour especially in the field of Therapy.

Best wishes to you in your future endeavours.May god bless.

T Bindu on July 29, 2020:

Great article keep it up God bless you

A. V. Chandraprabha on July 29, 2020:

Four pillars method for NLP seems to interesting

Keep writing, so that we can also adopt this new technology for better lifestyle

A. V. Chandraprabha on July 29, 2020:

Interesting Technology

I will go the same one or two times so that I too can involve and get to know for our day to day life

Thank you for sharing keep going so that weall too can improve ourselves

Shantha on July 27, 2020:

Good and nice article

Keep it up

God bless you

Srinivas D R on July 27, 2020:

Good Harshitha... All the best

Navyashree D S on July 27, 2020:

Loved reading it... Got to know something new... Good topic Harshi... Keep going... Waiting to read more of your writings...

All the best

Harshita AC (author) from Bangalore on July 26, 2020:

Thank You so much .

More such interesting articles to come by in near future. Stay tuned. @ Sujatha BK

Harshita AC (author) from Bangalore on July 26, 2020:

Thank You so much.

Looking forward for your support in my future articles. @ Sowmya Yadav

Harshita AC (author) from Bangalore on July 26, 2020:

Thank You so much.

Looking forward for your support in my future articles. @ N a Junaidi

Harshita AC (author) from Bangalore on July 26, 2020:

Thank You,

More such articles to come by. @ AV Chandraprabha.

Sujatha B K on July 26, 2020:

Good topic and very well expressed. It is very true that only people with open mind and vision to learn and accept the ground realities will change their lives for better.

Good writing. Waiting to read many more interesting articles.

God bless you and may you thrive in life.

Sowmya Yadav on July 26, 2020:

Great start!


Best wishes

N a junaidi on July 26, 2020:

God bless u with regards

A. V. Chandraprabha on July 25, 2020:

Great start and appreciated, keep going you reach high.

God bless you

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