I am a professional teacher, writer, researcher, and learner. I always try to learn because there is no age for learning.
Many people say that beauty comes from the outside and that what lies inside does not matter. But this could not be further from the truth, as this story shows. This woman was at first judged on her looks alone but soon realized that there was so much more to her than just the way she looked. This story follows her journey of self-discovery to realize her true beauty and show others how they can do the same.
Beauty isn’t Everything
True beauty comes from within. You can be the prettiest person in town, but if you’re not kind and caring to others, it won’t matter how pretty you are. The best way to learn how to find inner beauty is by watching someone who demonstrates it in their daily life. A good example is Sheryl Crow, an American singer-songwriter whose iconic voice has gained her accolades worldwide. She suffered through an early bout with depression and struggled with drug abuse, which she later wrote about in her successful song Strong Enough. Rather than wallow in self-pity and be overwhelmed by anxiety, Crow chose to stand up and fight back against everything that had been holding her down all these years—and it was one of her biggest accomplishments. People admire her courage to face her inner demons, whether in writing or singing. While we may never know what goes on behind closed doors, we sure do appreciate anyone who tells us about his or her struggles and admits openly what they did to overcome them. We need those people—our friends, family members, teachers, bosses...they don’t have any particular titles or awards they get hung up on their walls for being brave enough to admit personal struggles; they don’t even really want our praise for having gone through something so difficult as addiction or depression (although they certainly deserve it). What we need them for is just understanding: So many people refuse help simply because they think admitting pain makes them weak or less valuable as human beings.
A Beautiful Woman with Red Lips
Fear Shouldn’t Hold you Back
When she was 19 years old, Gretchin Rubin was lying in bed when her dad asked if she wanted to go bungee jumping. Her response: But that’s crazy! Now, 21 years later, Rubin has made it her life’s mission to prove that fear shouldn’t hold you back. In fact, in her new book Do It Scared: Charge Harder, Work Smarter and Be More Creative with Less Anxiety (Hudson Street Press), she makes an argument for why being afraid is necessary for thriving in life. Here are four things I learned from our conversation about how to stop letting fear hold you back and live your best life. You can make plans and look at what something might be, says Rubin. But until you take action, all these words don't mean anything. What do you think? Have you found success after living through a major failure? And have any fearless adventures coming up?
Woman in Gray Neck Shirt
One Day at a Time
I was born with Cerebral Palsy, which has left me with significant physical impairments. I also have complex regional pain syndrome and other conditions that can make just getting out of bed challenging, let alone going to school or working. I don’t mind being different, though. My differences are one reason I appreciate life more than some people because they force me to find creative solutions to problems and discover ways to be happy despite my circumstances. The most important thing I have learned over time is that life isn’t about what you have or what you can do—it’s about how you see yourself and how others see you. It’s about finding good in every situation, especially when it seems like there’s no good left. And it’s about always moving forward without letting fear hold you back. Today is not an easy day for me; tomorrow won't be either—but in a year from now, I will look back and realize that I am so much better off now than I was then. Regardless of whatever hardships may come my way, I will always keep moving forward without fear because fear makes us all live small lives. Fear doesn't help us reach our full potential; it helps us avoid anything scary or uncomfortable...and taking risks can pay off if we have enough courage to take them!
Bravery Pays off
My husband was diagnosed with high blood pressure and cholesterol, she recalled. His doctor said that he should eat healthier, exercise more, and lose weight. I knew that taking care of his health was very important to him, so I went out and bought every single diet book I could find. I also started cooking healthy meals for us almost every night, but his doctor said that we needed to start exercising as well. The two decided to join a gym together because they were close to their house and convenient for both schedules. Despite some initial resistance from her husband—he didn’t want her coming along since he felt she might distract him—she kept insisting until he finally relented one day when she wouldn’t stop asking. He went into work telling me that it would be my turn next time, my wife smiled as she told me about how things developed over time. It took me a while to take up running, but once I did my knees stopped hurting and it became easier to breathe. I also noticed that something in me changed; all of a sudden it seemed like everything became easier. Her eyes filled with tears as she confessed: It seems like whenever he says yes or no matter what obstacle gets in our way you can bet your life that we'll end up doing it!
Russian Woman Outdoor in Winter
True Beauty is Natural
The beauty industry sells us products and promises that are all too often built around lies. In reality, healthy skin comes from within. Many anti-aging creams do very little more than cover up blemishes; they don’t stop or prevent aging. The best way to protect your skin is by staying hydrated, eating well, and avoiding sun exposure during peak hours (10 am to 2 pm). The truth is that you need only spend five minutes in a tanning bed for severe damage to occur; in those few minutes, you can expose yourself to carcinogens like UVA and UVB rays. Use of these booths has decreased since 2010 but remains high—25 percent of adults over 18 have visited a tanning salon at least once in their lives. To keep skin looking fresh and vibrant as you age, follow a few simple rules: stay out of direct sunlight when possible, drink plenty of water every day, eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, and invest in broad-spectrum sunscreen with an SPF rating of 30 or higher. It's better to skip synthetic fillers altogether but if you feel compelled (and financially able) to experiment with injectables, consult your dermatologist first—and make sure it's not simply just another product line he's selling! Most important: never compromise your natural beauty.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2022 Ghulam Nabi Memon