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How Often Do Women Think About Sex?

As a psychology major at the University of North Texas, C. E. Clark found, and continues to find psychology endlessly fascinating.

Are Women Less Interested In Sex Than Men?

A few months ago I wrote an article titled, “Do Men Really Think About Sex Every 7 Seconds?” After hearing for many years that men think about sex every 7 seconds, I decided to research that issue and see if it was true, and report my findings.

In the process of researching men and their sexuality, I came across a lot of information about women too, and I thought it would only be right and fair to report my findings on women. It seems like men are always being singled out when it comes to sexual behavior and so to even things out a bit, I want to report my findings on women. Are women really less interested in sex than men are? How often do women think about Sex?

Might This Woman Be Thinking About Sex?

How often do women think about sex?  And in what context do they think about it?

How often do women think about sex? And in what context do they think about it?

The Ohio State University Study

In a study conducted by Dr. Terri D. Fisher, Professor of psychology at Ohio State University in Mansfield Ohio, the median number of times women participating in the study reported thinking about sex was 9.9 times daily. The average number of times women participating in the study thought about sex was 18.6 times daily -- almost half as often as men participating in the same study.

Dr. Fisher found that all participants in the study, both men and women all ranging between 18 and 25 years of age, thought equally as often about food and sleep as they did about sex.

Men thought about sex, food, and sleep about twice as often as women, but they also thought about all three of those things equally often. Women thought about sex, food, and sleep about equally often, but they thought about all those things about half as often as men. Clearly these are all important issues in the lives of young college students.

Social Desirability

The Ohio State University study was not an anonymous study. The participants interacted with the researchers and the study was conducted in such a way that the results from each participant could be connected to that individual. That is important to realize because not everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts on certain subjects, and so they might be inclined to say what they believe to be acceptable rather than what is true.

In general women have a tendency to be more concerned than men are with “social desirability.” Most men are much less concerned, in fact often completely unconcerned, with “social desirability.” As a result, Dr. Fisher says her study is not definitive regarding whether men do in fact think about sex more often than women.

This writer would agree with Dr. Fisher in that her study is not definitive. Not because the study did not include anonymity for the participants, though that is a consideration, but because the study was extremely limited in the number of people who participated – and perhaps more importantly, because the age range of the participants was extremely narrow.

I do not think the results of a study on the issue of sex that includes only people ages 18-25 necessarily transfers to people of all ages, especially people 35 and over. A man’s sexual peak is said to occur well before 35 and a woman’s by the time she is 40 or so. There is some controversy about that.

Concern about social desirability means that a person is very sensitive to how they appear to other people. Social desirability varies between individuals, but influences how concerned some people are with looking good or appearing acceptable to other people, and fitting in.

If social desirability is extremely important to a person, the truth may suffer. That in turn means that some women may be reticent about being truthful as to how often they think about food, or sex since our society has a definite opinion on how often nice girls engage in sex and how much women should eat. “There is some evidence that at least some women [Ohio State University study participants] were reluctant to report certain types of thoughts,” Dr. Fisher says.

About the Sample

Dr. Terri D. Fisher along with Zachary T. Moore and Mary-Jo Pittenger (students) conducted the study searching for the answer to how often men and women think about sex in 2011. There were 163 women and 120 men who participated, making it a total of 283 students between the ages of 18 and 25.

Dr. Fisher’s study included a rather small sample representing only a narrow segment of our population – young college people. There is no way to know how that sample relates to people who are older.

Both women and men between 25 and eternity might well have a different attitude about sex and therefore think about it more or less often than they did at 18-25 years of age.

University of Chicago Study

Another study conducted several years earlier in 1994 at the University of Chicago by Edward O. Laumann, sociology professor at Chicago University, John H. Gagnon, sociology professor at State University of New York at Stony Brook, Robert T. Michael, dean of the graduate school of public policy studies at the University of Chicago, and Stuart Michaels, researcher at University of Chicago, had somewhat different results. This study included 3,432 men and women ranging in age from 18 to 59. Because the study included more than 10 times as many participants and the age range was considerably more extensive, it would seem to be more relevant.

The University of Chicago study reports that “19% of women think about sex everyday or several times a day, 67% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 14% of the female participants in the study thought about sex less than once a month.”

More Psychology from Au Fait

The Kinsey Report On Sexual Behavior In the Human Female

Collier’s wrote back in 1953 when the Kinsey Report on women was released, “Fundamentally, it is a magnificent piece of basic research which will be used by scholars for years to come as a jumping-off place for further studies.” Without a doubt, this is a true statement for both the Kinsey Report on women as well as the report on men.

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Before the Kinsey Report on women was conducted and released it was widely believed by thousands of men and women that women were incapable of any kind of sexual response. How anyone could even imagine such a thing seems pretty absurd, but back in the ‘old days’ many misconceptions about females, some extremely ludicrous, were accepted as scientific fact.

The Kinsey Report on women was especially shocking, not only because it turned the ridiculous belief that women were sexually unresponsive on its head, but because of some of the other findings.

For example, 13% of the participants admitted to having at least one “same sex orgasmic experience.” 62% of female participants admitted to engaging in masturbation. Half of all female participants reported having had premarital intercourse and a quarter of female participants said they had engaged in extramarital sex. Perhaps you can imagine the stir these findings caused back in 1953 when American society was considerably more conservative and it was believed that women were incapable of any kind of sexual response.

Indeed, these findings are still so shocking and offensive to some people in the year 2015, that the owners of this site threatened to unpublish this article if I did not remove all advertising from it immediately, when I first published it. I was informed that advertisers were offended by the content of this article and to remove the advertising or else. The only advertising on this article was a 900 number call company. I was totally unaware that it was even possible to offend such a company.

In fact, I was offended that the owners of this site allowed such a company to advertise on my article because this article is written in a scholarly respectful way about information that everyone should have about a part of life that was, and remains an invention of our creator. Yes, Christians know that God created humans in His image and it was God who invented sex for the purpose of human reproduction. If one bothers to read their Bible, specifically the chapter of Psalms, and a few others, they will see that God had other purposes for sex (inside marriage) as well.

This author wonders how that first meeting with God will go when those people who object to sex and are offended by God's creation of sex discuss His poor judgment in creating sex as the main means of bringing their beautiful children into this world. Interesting that God's creations (some people) believe themselves superior to Him on this subject and likely plan to chastise Him for not coming up with a better, less disgusting plan, for human reproduction. I would love to eavesdrop on that conversation . . . writes, “A major weakness of the two Kinsey reports was their failure to examine the sexual behavior of people of color in the United States. Furthermore, the samples relied heavily upon middle-class, college-educated Americans under age 35.”

Since the Kinsey Reports back in 1948-1953, there has been no study so comprehensive on the subject of human sexual behavior. More recent studies have included far fewer participants and have considerably narrowed their focus.

Could This Woman Be Thinking About Sex?

If this woman is thinking about sex, in what context is she thinking about it?

If this woman is thinking about sex, in what context is she thinking about it?

What Exactly Does "Thinking About Sex" Mean?

So far as I have been able to determine, no study has defined exactly what is included in “thinking about sex.” Does this include only sexual fantasies, or thoughts about sexual activities in the past or the future? Or does ‘thinking about sex’ also include things related to sex such as birth control use, discussion of criminal sexual behavior that took place with children or adults, planning one’s family (how many children to have and when), and the telling of sexually suggestive jokes, or a variety of other sex related subject matter?

How can we know how often people are thinking about sex if we do not first define what exactly we mean by “thinking about sex?” Clearly a sexually suggestive joke causes people to be thinking about sex, but in what context?

Considering and choosing a particular birth control method also includes thinking about sex, but again, is it what most people imagine when they hear the phrase, “thinking about sex?” To get accurate results, it is first necessary to define the questions to be asked so that the results obtained will be relevant to the question(s) asked, as well as the study's purpose.

I invite my readers to share their feelings on this article in the comments below. Was this article informative? Or simply offensive because it creates questions of credibility on the long standing stork delivery system?


C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 03, 2015:

DeborahDian, thank you for reading and commenting on this article! Yes many women are interested in sex, but as you say, in different ways than men often times, although some women are just as casual.

Deborah Carr from Orange County, California on June 03, 2015:

I think that, with the popularity of "50 Shades of Grey" (over 120 million copies sold), people would start to realize that women are interested in sex, although safety, security and love may be larger factors than it is for some men. Great research!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 16, 2015:

Patricia (Pstraubie48), thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts on this article and subject matter. It's really a lot more complicated subject than meets the eye. :)

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on March 12, 2015:

This is a very interesting and informative piece. I especially found it interesting when you called into question exactly what 'thinking about sex' means. that opens up a whole new can of worms as you point out.

I also thought it was surprising those in the study in the fifties were as candid about sex as they were...who would have thought that to be the case?

At any rate, this was well researched as I find all of your work to be and posed thought-provoking questions for us to consider. I am in my late sixties and O, yes. I do (think about it...from time to time :D).

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on July 17, 2014:

Danext, thank you for coming by. Always remember that no matter what studies show about the majority of their participants that majority doesn't mean 100%. It means 51% or more or whatever percentage is stated. That means there are a considerable number of people who are not in the majority and not necessarily in agreement. Everyone is an individual first.

Dan Lema from Tanzania on July 10, 2014:

Very informative article, i personally it's nice to have an honest two sided view about the subject so as we can know about each other well to avoid misunderstanding and grow our relationship well.....voted articles are very interesting....

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on April 19, 2014:

Word55, thank you for reading this article and sharing your thoughts on this subject. Agree with you completely!

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on April 16, 2014:

Hi Au fait, although I think of sex more often now, than when I was younger, it is no good unless bonding is involved and being promiscuous is cheating oneself. It is as special as it should be when you can bond mentally, emotionally and spiritually (getting to know your mate). Sex should only be done between two people in love. That's when it is valued, appreciated and performed best… As a matter of fact, many men would not be impotent in many cases if they first, pursued a woman for her love with intent to commit to her as opposed to pursuing her just to have sex... I can go on and on but I'll stop here. Glad you did this hub/article.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on February 16, 2014:

Dream On, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Thinking about how we can love people, if only with a smile to brighten their day, instead of looking for things we can criticize about them, would certainly make our world better.

DREAM ON on February 13, 2014:

I came back to your hub and reread it again.Enjoying the way you handled each question properly and objectively. I wonder if all the ads directed at men lead them to think about sex more often where woman are smarter to see the icing on the cake before they take a bite.Very interesting hub and sex will always be on my mind. I think for men it is the deep connection (sex and love) sometimes are interchangeable. Depending on your up bringing and choice of words growing up. Either way until more studies are done Sex is here to stay on both women and men's minds. I am proud to say if we spent more time loving one another maybe we would be too busy hating so many other people. Have a great night.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on February 11, 2014:

Thank you Deborah-Diane for bringing attention to this article. However it is considered too bawdy for advertisers so advertising was removed early on. I guess only hubs about sex in relation to men is allowed on this site and eligible for HOD. I'd be happy to have the advertising put back on, no need for HOD.

Deborah-Diane from Orange County, California on February 09, 2014:

Fascinating article ... and a great one for couples to discuss together just before Valentine's Day! It's a great time to share this article with my followers. :)

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 14, 2014:

Thank you Aunt Jimi for taking note of the fact that the playing field here on HP is not by any means level. You and I have discussed what it takes to succeed in this world and I think that same talent/skill and attitude we discussed is just as necessary here in order to be appreciated, as it seems to be everywhere else.

Thank you for the share, too!

Aunt Jimi from The reddest of the Red states! on January 11, 2014:

Noted the Hub of the Day for yesterday and it has far more offensive language in it than this hub, yet you were forced to remove all advertising and most certainly did not get Hub of the Day.

Does one have to be a man in order to write about sex on this site? Or must sex relate only to men in order to keep the advertising on a hub? Why are rules applied so unfairly on this site? I think it is so unfair to you not to be allowed to have advertising on this hub that is so tastefully and well written. I know other women who have written about sex on this site were bullied into removing their advertising by the moderators too. Clearly this is a sexist site and pretty far removed from reality too.

Sharing this article with my followers.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 24, 2013:

Dream On, thank you for taking time to read and comment on this article. Some people can't deal with reality and would not be able to function in society if they were forced to accept that there is such a thing as s-e-x or that the stork really doesn't bring human babies. These are just a few of the people HP caters to.

I really haven't had time to expand very much to other sites, but I do have a few articles at Wikinut. Only one on this subject, but I hope to add more. Maybe this coming summer when there is no other work.

You can find me by putting C. E. Clark on Wikinut in the Google search box. My profile should be the first entry returned. Thank you for asking.

If you search the articles on my profile page here on HP you will find other articles on this subject also. I have 4 on here and hope to move them eventually.

Merry Christmas to you and your family, and Happy New Year too!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 24, 2013:

Sorry Pro-Hubber, I just now discovered your comments in duplicate. I'm going to delete the first one since they're exactly the same. HP didn't see fit to notify me they were here for some reason, but they also seem to think your comments are SPAM. Have to say, I don't know exactly what they mean either. Perhaps you could explain?

DREAM ON on December 23, 2013:

After reading many of your comments and your ability to further explain in great detail your opinion and facts. The way you clarify and help others see different views. It is sad that more can't be discussed here on HubPages their loss.I would appreciate information of other sites that you go to where you continue to explain great information on such a very important subject matter.Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 09, 2013:

GoForTheJuggler, thank you for commenting and voting on this article!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 08, 2013:

cfin, thank you for reading and commenting on this article. Very much appreciate your thoughts.

You are right in that hormones play the major part in how interested we are in sex as well as who we are attracted to in the first place. Of course society plays a big part too, at least in how we try to feel, not necessarily in how we really do feel. Most studies of this nature try to find a way to keep social influences out of these things.

Young women (16-35 or so) often have a different opinion about sex than older women. This is mainly due, as you have pointed out, to hormones. That isn't to say that all women in these age groups agree about frequency of sex, because of course there are always some exceptions, but generally 65-70% of women in certain age groups have similar attitudes about frequency of sex and how often they think about it.

Generally speaking, men want sex but women want love. Women often confuse sex with love and they are not the same things at all. Sex is likely to be what women get when they are seeking love, which may somewhat explain why women get confused about the two.

Women may not think through that what they were seeking was not delivered and sometimes they imagine a man is 'in love' with them as a result. Men do not require love as a condition of sex. Women will often give in imagining that the love is in there somewhere, they only have to find it.

That isn't to say that women never enjoy sex for it's own sake, because some women do, but the majority of women often come away from the experience feeling like something is missing, especially when it involves a man they don't really know very well.

It's a very complicated subject and sadly it has been politicized so that getting to the truth is very difficult.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 07, 2013:

Anil and Honey, thank you for stopping by. Sex drive is usually genetic, however culture can make some difference too. We have a wide variety of attitudes about sex here in the states, but modern thinking women more often choose to recognize and acknowledge their sexual appetite. If you read my article on 'How Often Do Men Think About Sex?,' you will see that there is variation in sexual appetite among both sexes.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 05, 2013:

carlajbehr, thank you for stopping by. Glad you enjoyed!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 05, 2013:

Thank you moonlake, for voting on this hub and for sharing it.

HP has taken all the advertising off this article quite a while ago, as they have for all my hubs on sex and women. I moved my hub on, "Sex or Food? Which Would You Choose?" to Wikinut. When I deleted it from here HP lowered my hubber score by 5 points.

If HP thought it was so terrible that they must remove their advertising (including 900 number advertising, because the advertisers were both shocked and insulted by my material), wouldn't you think they would raise my hubber score for deleting the offensive article? And maybe give me some sort of accolade or honor too? You can't please these people.

Joshua Patrick from Texas on November 04, 2013:

Two of my favorite subjects - women and sex! Great hub, voted up and across!

cfin from The World we live in on November 04, 2013:

I think that women and men are more alike than people believe. The world we are born into fills our brains with certain expectations, and from their we change to suit. Hormones are the main contributing factor in how we think differently. Other than that, some women think like men and some men like women.

Anil from Kerala on November 04, 2013:

My thoughts was quit different, 'man is more sex than woman that was my thoughts , good hub thanks

Carla J Swick from NW PA on November 04, 2013:

Well researched - thank you for sharing - interesting stuff.

moonlake from America on November 04, 2013:

I thank it's time to share this hub again voted up. Very interesting.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on August 17, 2013:

Thank you Hariom Singhal for stopping by and sharing your thoughts!

Hariom from INDIA (Haryana) SAMPLA on August 15, 2013:

Men think about sex every second not 7 second.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on July 05, 2013:

Thank you fpherj48, Paula, for reading and commenting on this hub!

I think the amount of sex that is used to sell things and that is in the media generally makes people want to believe that everyone now has a healthy accepting realistic attitude towards sex, but in fact it seems to me that there are two extremes in this country. The people who are into the porn, BDSM clubs and swinger or team sex, and those who think sex is a filthy nasty dirty activity that you save for the one you love and that is used to bring your beautiful children into the world. ;) I call this second bunch the people who are puckered at both ends. There are more of them than you might think.

We need a healthy medium. I really think a healthy realistic attitude would decrease the number of divorces and children born unwanted.

Suzie from Carson City on June 29, 2013:

Au fait.....Sadder than I thought! We must dress and undress in the closet....only to discover, we must also speak and write from a closet?? You must have known how accurate you are, to say, "not much has changed!"

I am duly confused. It SURELY APPEARS that it has ALL changed to a DRASTIC degree.........Just proves, what the heck do I know??!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 28, 2013:

fpherj49, Paula, thank you for reading and commenting on this hub! If you notice there is no advertising on it. That is because some unsuspecting soul opened it and discovered it really does talk about s-e-x and they thought the title was a ruse. They have now been undergoing therapy in an effort to relieve the shock from the horrifically traumatic experience they had when they discovered that the Stork family is a myth. Hope to move my hubs on s-e-x to another site one of these days and will then resume writing on this subject at that time.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 27, 2013:

Thank you Paul Kuehn, for reading, voting on, and sharing/tweeting this hub, and for sharing your thoughts on this subject.

I don't know if researchers have determined why women peak at 40-45 years old, but I think it may have to do with menopause. Last chance for pregnancy and all that.

You might be surprised at how many of us really have very little interest in sex for the reasons I mentioned in my hub titled "Food or Sex."

Appreciate your suggestion of spin-offs. I already have 4 hubs on the subject of sex, and had a 5th waiting for over a year before I finally deleted it just the other day without ever publishing it. HP doesn't appreciate these hubs and has removed all advertising from them. They told me people had complained about them and were offended. Considering some of the hubs that remain published with advertising on them, I think they're really just picking on me.

The word s-e-x is a no-no as are any words relating to it, here on HP. Very traumatizing to anyone regardless of age, who accidentally happens upon one of my hubs. After reading they would surly require psychiatric intervention. No more talk about s-e-x Paul. We can dimly refer to the stork, but that's the limit of the discussion. ;)

I'm hoping to move my hubs on s-e-x to another more grown-up site where people are better informed and aware that in fact the stork is obsolete and pretty much a fairytale like so many other things these people who can't deal with reality believe. With no advertising on them, they benefit neither me nor HP.

Suzie from Carson City on June 24, 2013:

Au fait! " PRUDISH Baby Boomers?!" Here, here.....that's an understatement, if this pathetic boomer, ever heard one. Truth: I cannot even COMMENT....(why, THAT would be "TALKING ABOUT S.E.X, au fait!!)......just what kind of girl (great-grandmother!) do you think I AM, anyway???/!! sad.

Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on June 22, 2013:


This is a very interesting, well-researched hub. To me, thinking about sex can be defined as being "horny" and wanting to engage in sexual intercourse. Young men, obviously, think of sex a lot starting from 13 or 14 because their levels of testosterone are highest at this age. As you mentioned in this hub, a woman's sexual peak is not reached until she is around 40. Is there any special reason for this? If you define sex mostly as romance and foreplay, then I think you will find just as many women thinking of sex as men. Come to think of it, there are so many different spin-offs you could write on this topic. Voted up and sharing with followers. Also Tweeting.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on April 26, 2013:

Thank you Dream On for reading and commenting on this hub. Appreciate your voicing your concerns about studies and research also.

I think you may have studies mixed up with statistics. Statistics can be manipulated and sometimes writers/reporters or manufacturers/businesses will manipulate the stats to their own benefit in an effort to make monetary or other gain.

Studies are reviewed by peers (usually lots of them, especially if the findings are controversial) and if they don't meet snuff they are sidelined and not taken seriously. Studies must be carefully conducted in a scientific way or they can destroy a researcher's reputation and credibility.

It is always important to know who conducted a particular study, research, or investigation, and perhaps more importantly, who PAID for it. If the findings are skewed that all but always gets publicized and the entire study is often rejected by other researchers as not having any validity. How a study or research project is conducted must be well documented because that is just as important, if not more so, that the results themselves.

DREAM ON on April 21, 2013:

I was interested in your findings and I realized you have discussed this topic in great detail.Great work bringing different findings and reporting the results.I once heard you can't believe in any studies because the people doing the studies want to have a certain outcome and find a group that gives them the answer they want.So all studies are just a way of rearranging the facts to get the desired result your looking for to sway the public in a certain way.I just wanted to hear an objective opinion.I use to believe studies that I read and years later I wonder if Iwas tricked into believing or just niave.I find all studies interesting and lots of hard work.I will return to read many more of your hubs on new studies on the subject from years to come.Thanx so much.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on April 06, 2013:

Thank you for stopping by rasta1!

Marvin Parke from Jamaica on March 30, 2013:

I have always wondered what are women thinking. This hub has clarified some of my suspicions.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 30, 2013:

Troyangeluk, thank you for reading, commenting, and voting on this hub. Glad you weren't disappointed -- ;) Thanks for the compliments.

Troyangeluk from UK on March 27, 2013:

I couldn't help but read this, very interesting subject and the answer is pretty much what I expected. Your detail and statistic are very well resourced, fantastic work :) woted up etc.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 23, 2013:

Thank you Levertis Steele for reading, and commenting on this hub. I very much appreciate that you shared your thoughts on this subject also.

Most women have access to birth control nowadays so there should be no stress for most women regarding sex. I will say that birth control pills never worked well for me because they killed any desire for sex that I had and they made me sicker n' a dog. They may be killing other women's desire too, and women not realizing it.

Oddly enough (IMHO), recent studies show that couples who share chores have sex less often than couples where the wife takes care of 95% or more of the chores. Also, couples who share chores have a higher divorce rate. Go figure.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 20, 2013:

Thank you Joseph Renne for leaving a comment and sharing your thoughts.

The most recent study I quoted is from 2011. I think you would be hard pressed to find stats that are less than 2 years old on any subject, which these were when I wrote this hub, and they still are less than 2 years old.

A larger study which I quoted in my hub, "Food or Sex, Which Would You Choose," showed that a very large number of women, including young women, would choose food. A surprising number of men chose food also.

You do of course realize that most of us can recount people who do not fit in the majority, after all, the majority is only 51% or more. Studies are more dependable with most information because our own personal experience is only antidotal and may not translate to the larger population.

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on March 20, 2013:

Au fait,

I like this: "Knowing about certain aspects of sex is not evil or sinful, it is being well informed."

True. Sex education is certainly not a waste of time. If we could get back to the teaching of "Wait until marriage," many world problems would begin to disappear unbelievably.

Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on March 20, 2013:

I like what Jen wrote:

"Who has tine or energy to think about sex? I guess college kids do and maybe that's why some of them flunk out. They should be thinking about studying and showing up to class instead of sex."

Women get pregnant and men don't. This affects thoughts about sex. Many women have frequent, healthy thoughts about sex when they do not have to worry about getting pregnant or do not fear getting a disease. Trust is important. It is not surprising to hear healthy, menopausal women say that they have more interest in sex. So, thoughts of it may increase when the stress of worries minimizes.

A woman who works, does most of the housework, attends to children, and takes care of a husband is a very busy and tired human being. She fights for time to think about herself. "The work of a woman is never done" is true of a dutiful one. I won't mention outside duties, such as church and school volunteering, picking up kids after practice, attending kids' functions, and the list goes on and on! A smart husband who wants a wife to think about sex more often needs to be smart enough to divide the work to afford the wife more rest time. An exhausted wife may only be able to dream of a quiet bed and that rare "me" time. A cheating husband is so unfair to a poor woman like this, but a smart man is always on the job alongside her unless she does not work outside the home. Now, that makes for a happier couple and more time to think about other things!

I won't mention the unmarried youngsters because they should take cold showers, do their homework, and triple date, if they must before 25, when they have time. I am old-fashioned and think that the only good, clean sex is married-to-each-other sex. The end.

Oh, interesting hub!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 19, 2013:

Thank you moonlake for reading, commenting, voting on, and especially for sharing this hub! Agree that with sex being used to promote (through advertising) everything under the sun that it naturally puts it into ones mind more often than it might ordinarily be. Everyone is different when it comes to sex, like with everything else, and some people just have it on their minds more as a result.

moonlake from America on March 17, 2013:

Sorry about that I should have said ads or commercials, "not adds."

Joseph Renne from Milton on March 17, 2013:

Does anyone have any new study's?

I think about sex at least daily. More Between the hours of 6pm-9pm & (12am- 3am If it's a late night)

I have personality experienced that younger woman think more about sex in the morning, and tend to have the urge later that day. Only If feasible.

No other better way to start the morning...

moonlake from America on March 17, 2013:

I'm to old to think about sex 18.6 a day. I'm lucky if I think about it once a month. I actually think we think about sex more often now because we see so much of it on tv or in adds it's so out there now days. Enjoyed your hub and reading the comments. Voted up and shared.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on February 18, 2013:

Thank you Kathryn Stratford for reading & commenting on this hub! Most women think more about sex when they are ovulating and men they might not give a second thought to will suddenly seem desirable. They will usually feel more 'in the mood' during ovulation than at any other time of the month. It's chemical, and not something a woman chooses to feel or not. I know people don't like to think their biological bodies are controlling their feelings and desires, but sometimes that is the case. Of course you have the power to overrule those feelings if you recognize where they're really coming from . . .

You must remember that 'majority' only means 51% or more. Most studies that are considered credible have a majority of 65% or more, give or take a percentage. Even people who fit into the majority this morning may not this afternoon. They may fit into the majority again tomorrow, but not the day after. Then there are people whose feelings/behaviors/thoughts on certain things don't really fluctuate very much.

Even when a majority is 67% or more, there are still 33% or so who are different, and that's quite a few too.

Kathryn from Windsor, Connecticut on February 17, 2013:

The 1953 study's results didn't surprise me until I noticed the year. Wow, I thought women back then were different! I guess they did and felt different things that they didn't necessarily go around talking about. People nowadays are usually a little more open about sexuality.

This is a very interesting topic, and no doubt extremely popular!

I don't think there is a set amount of times a woman thinks about sex, and it varies by person. And like you said, the definition of "thinking about sex" is not clear-cut. But I know that there are some days I am more or less likely to think about such things. Not every day is the same.

I didn't notice until now that you had articles on psychology. Now that I do, I'll be reading more when I have the time. It is a subject I am very interested in.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 04, 2013:

Thank you Cheeky Girl, for reading and commenting on this hub! I agree that information and knowledge is power. Knowing and understanding your body and feelings isn't the same thing as abusing that knowledge.

There are certain things people need to know just for safety and health reasons if nothing else, but our country, as you probably know is one of the most sexually repressed countries in the world. For some reason people don't want to know even the most rudimentary things about sex and they don't want their children to know them either.

The only reason any one of us is here is because of sex. God created sex. Knowing about certain aspects of sex is not evil or sinful, it is being well informed. To suggest sex is evil is to accuse God of creating evil. How we use God's creations is what can make them evil or not. Even that doesn't make the creation itself evil, but reflects instead on the person who is choosing to abuse or misuse that creation.

We have a word for many of the teenage girls who are prevented by their parents from having information about sex -- Mom. We have a word for the boys too -- when we know who they are -- Daddy.

Unfortunately young women still bear most of the burden of unwanted pregnancies -- usually because they got themselves pregnant! In all my studies I have not yet learned how a woman does that -- gets herself pregnant that is. I would sincerely love to know that procedure!

Assure you that sex in India is far more accepted, discussed, and informed than it is in this country. Gang rape happens here too, but we only hear about it on slow news days or when networks are trying to get their ratings up. Gang rape isn't a product of ignorance about sex, it is a desire for assailants to demean, degrade, and show their belief that they are superior to their victims. It is purely violence and not dependent on a lack of sexual knowledge. Women still have their place in India, just as they do here more so than many people want to admit.

For some reason a lot of people in this country imagine we are worlds ahead of all other countries in everything, and that couldn't be further from the truth whether you're talking about sex or technology. Today the Chinese are far ahead of us technologically, and most of Europe has been ahead of us for decades in realizing that sex is a natural part of life and not something to never speak about.

I'm thinking you're fairly young because sex between bosses and staff is not new. Ever since women entered the workforce it has been pervasive. Unfortunately, it has been from that time, and remains to this day, one of the ways women keep their jobs and receive promotions. Surprised you didn't know.

Agree that people need to know and understand their bodies better.

Cassandra Mantis from UK and Nerujenia on January 01, 2013:

A great hub about sex and talking about it is awesome as it gets things out in the open. That is a healthy thing. Personally I think women can be capable of thinking about sex as often as guys do. But we are emotional creatures. Our slant on sex is different. Thinking of sex versus thinking of having sex. Now there's a challenging hub to think about.

The more we know about how our bodies work and the more freedom we all have to information about sex and health - the better off we all are. I was watching the funeral of a Delhi girl who died after a rape attack in India. The headline said it all. People are very ignorant when it comes to matters of sex in some parts of the world. In the West, we can seem conservative - but some of it is fake.

I personally am noticing a weird trend among people I know. Bosses and staff having sexual relationships with each other... it seems to be increasing. Some people are willing to go a long way towards keeping a job in these seemingly jobless times.

Great hub! Plenty here to think about!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 10, 2012:

DDE, thanks for stopping by . . .

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 10, 2012:

Curiad, sorry to pop your balloon, but in fact the idea that American Society was extremely conservative (some of us call it sexually repressed) in the 50s as well as right this very minute, is not my own original thought. I do concur with it however.

I know lots of people who grew up in the 50s and before, and most of them are quite prudish to say the least.

Just a few years ago I sat in a university class where a few of my classmates sat with their ears covered and their eyes closed lest they hear or see something relating to sex and compromise their innocence on that subject. My daughter was penpals about 10 years ago with a young girl of 16 who was part of an extremely religious family. She was looking forward to when her father would choose her husband for her. Believe me the word s-e-x was not discussed with her at all, not in private and not anywhere. There are a lot of religious people in our society even today and they have opinions about people who speak frankly about sex.

I think you may suffer from a serious case of false consensus. That is a phrase psychologists use to describe people who sincerely believe everyone shares their own opinions, values, and beliefs. While there have always been a few women who made no secret of their interest in sex, many did not, either in the 50s and before, or now.

Assuming anything is usually wrong. A lot of the troubles in this world are cause by people making assumptions rather than getting the facts.

Oh, thank you for stopping by and taking your valuable time to criticize your assumption that was wrong. xx

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 09, 2012:

epigramman, thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing this hub! And for your high praise!! What excellent taste you have! ;) So glad you found this hub and its subject intriguing. I have lots of intriguing hubs, so come back soon! ;)

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on December 08, 2012:

Interesting thought!!!

Curiad on December 07, 2012:

I would assume that this statement "Perhaps you can imagine the stir these findings caused back in 1953 when American society was considerably more conservative and it was believed that women were incapable of any kind of sexual response." is your own thought. Not only is this completely ridiculous, but I seriously doubt anyone thought this. The truth would be closer to saying that people were not willing to discuss this in public. Just look at the "roaring 20s" to understand that women did in fact think about sex and as you say "respond to sex" and then further understand that this was a widely known aspect of society.

epigramman on December 07, 2012: often do they think about sex? Hopefully every time they come over to Epi's hallowed hubspace - lol lol

And yes this is a world class hub presentation because it provokes each and everyone of us into thinking and debating this issue and that's what great writers do - of which you are one.

I must share - post and link your intriguing hub to stir up some excitement on Facebook at the Hubpages group there and I am sending you warm wishes from lake erie time ontario canada 9:12pm and I am thinking about it right now ..........

......................having a nice cuppa of chai tea!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 15, 2012:

Thank you Millionaire Tips for reading and commenting on this hub. Yes, there is a good deal of diversity in how often women think about sex. It's always interesting to learn what other people think about things, don't you think?

Shasta Matova from USA on November 14, 2012:

These are interesting statistics, and it is amazing how different they are from each other. One say several times a day, while another goes as far as to think once a month. There is a middle ground, and you are right, the difference probably has to do with the definition of "think about sex". I think the middle ground is somewhere in between.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 07, 2012:

That certainly used to be true and probably still is in certain circles -- thinking women who think about sex as bad. The younger generation has fewer hangups on this issue fortunately. Since sex was created by God and is a natural part of life, I do not understand why so many people find the subject so uncomfortable. Thanks for your input Shyron!

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on November 06, 2012:

I think women think about sex more often than most will ever admit. I think most women think that if people know ho often they think about sex, they would be labeled as bad.

I am glad your hub allows people to talk about sex freely!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 06, 2012:

vijaykumarcmeseo, thank you for commenting on this hub! Interesting to learn that having sex before marriage is against the law in India. Are people imprisoned if they break this law? What is the punishment?

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 04, 2012:

I hope the subject of sex is a bit easier for people to think about and discuss, but a lot of people still aren't comfortable with it and may never be -- that's the reason I was turned in according to moderators, and ads removed from my hubs, even though I try to stay professional in the way I handle the subject. Thanks for the positive comments, Shyron!

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on November 03, 2012:

I am glad that talk about sex is no longer taboo! thank you for making it possible to discuss this topic.

We were discussing this at the last poker part, i attended.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 03, 2012:

Thank you, vijaykumarcmeseo, for commenting on this hub! Some people may view sex as a vehicle for relaxing, and the end result is usually a relaxed body and mind, but not everyone shares the same opinion about sex. There are many ways to relax and some people prefer other methods. Most people in the U.S. do not view sex in the same way y'all do in India.

Thanks again for your comment!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on October 12, 2012:

Thank you for your comment fpherj48! All I can say is the stork definitely didn't bring my baby. ;)

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on October 11, 2012:

Thank you for your comments Shyron. I do try to pack as much info into a hub as I can often times.

Suzie from Carson City on October 11, 2012:

Au fait.....Wait a minute!! Are you saying the Stork DOESN'T bring us babies???!!!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on October 10, 2012:

Thank you for reading and commenting on my hub, James A Watkins. None of the conclusions are my own. This is a research project and I referenced the findings and 'conclusions' stated here. I appreciate your desire to give me credit for this study, but I'm only reporting the results.

I think you might find that not all men are like yourself and so it's usually a bad idea to compare all men to just one, whether that one man you are measuring all others against is yourself or some other man. Young men today often think very differently from your own generation.

The psychological phrase 'false consensus' refers to people who imagine that everyone thinks, behaves, and/or values the same things as oneself. It's almost never completely true. It's often not true at all.

While you may consider sexual behavior nasty at best or evil at worst, or something else sinful, the fact is that God created sex. Like so many things, it's what people make it.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on October 09, 2012:

Very, Very interesting hub. Well written. I learn more after a second read or even a third read.

James A Watkins from Chicago on October 09, 2012:

Thank you for a good read. You had a lot of good information in there and it is extremely well written. I'd say many of your concusions are on the money. I would like to note two things, however—one little, the other huge.

As far as the notion that 'Most men are much less concerned, in fact often completely unconcerned, with “social desirability".' My life experience finds that to be completely backwards. I think most of what men do is to be socially desirable to women. Especially now that pleasing God is fading from view in America. What else is there?

But that is a small point. The larger point I wish to make is this: The Sexual Revolution is hailed by Liberal Atheists as the greatest advance for mankind since the wheel—or at least since penicillin. Alfred Kinsey is the man to whom we owe much for these changing mores.

According to this view, Kinsey freed us from "ignorance, hypocritical condemnation of sexuality from religious intolerance, and misguided prejudice, that condemned most people to be totally ignorant about the most basic knowledge about human sexuality." Such a statement makes me wonder how the human race ever survived before Alfred Kinsey and the Kinsey Report.

Another Liberal Atheist claims that Kinsey "freed Americans from superstition, myths, and misinformation," because "he rightly treats sex as animal behavior above and beyond moralizing."

As with most evils, this evil began with a series of huge lies. The biggest was about Kinsey himself—that he was a conservative Republican family man. He was in fact a sadistic, masochistic, homosexual child molester who had no experience in the study of human sexuality. Kinsey was a zoologist whose only previously published work was a study of the gall wasp. He died of orchitis, caused by his years of constant, brutal, masochistic masturbation methods.

I extrapolate on this topic further in my Hub "Alfred Kinsey." What Kinsey did was allow Americans an excuse to put away "doing what they approved of" and putting on "approving of what they have a base impulse to do."

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 17, 2012:

fpherj48, thank you for reading, commenting, and adding to my hub!

I know all about the taboos of speaking about s-e-x. In fact, things haven't changed all that much. My hub on "Fat Women Are Hot!" etc. had advertising on it at first, and then it was moderated and all advertising removed -- apparently the people who advertise 900 numbers were offended. That was one of the ads before all were removed.

Sadly, many people simply can't cope even in today's more modern enlightened era and they insist that the stork is how we all got here. A surprising number of those people are young, 20s, 30s, etc.

Thanks again for making this hub more interesting!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 16, 2012:

sharkye11, thank you for reading and commenting on this hub. I agree with you. I have studied gerontology and I have heard how young people (under 25) talk about people over 50, and if that's not enough, I know lots of older people who haven't forgotten about sex. I think it's wrong to separate married couples in nursing homes.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 16, 2012:

Frank Atanacio, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub, and for sharing your enthusiasm for sex! I guess you either think about sex every 3 seconds or so (far more often than the record) or you're a slow writer . . . just teasing. Very cute response, Frank. Hope you're having an enjoyable day! ;)

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 15, 2012:

tsmog, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub! Glad you enjoyed. Have fun pondering! ;)

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 15, 2012:

Billybuc, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 14, 2012:

TToombs08, thank you for commenting on my hub! Now you see why it's so important to define "thinking about sex." ;) And thinking about sex and food . . .

Suzie from Carson City on September 14, 2012:

Au fait......Very well-researched and written hub. More power to you, to tackle a sensitive (?) subject. I enjoyed reading the comments, as well.

Had to chuckle at my good friend, Tillie's comment. She and I are Boomers. I'm guessing, it was decades for her to make the first part of her comment..It surely was for me.....and the last statement screams of a time when we simply didn't discuss all......Depression Era parents who stressed what "Young Ladies do and do NOT do,"...Catholic up bringing and Catholic schools, reminding us of the horrible SIN that would damn us to everlasting fires of hell. Even THINKING it (impure thoughts, you know)

This may sound a bit strange to the younger fact, they might laugh or scoff. Trust me, it was real and almost a form of brain washing that we had to deal with and struggle through, on our own. If unintentionally messing up your kid's head and view of "sex" is funny.....why did nearly an entire generation of individuals, step into the world of "Adults" all hung up, confused, scared and undressing in a closet?

And allow me to echo Tillie....."that's about all you'll get from me on a public forum." Great work here, Au fait!..........Up & Shhhhhh!!

Jayme Kinsey from Oklahoma on September 14, 2012:

Excellent hub. Lots of great information without any belittling or snickering. I think it would be very beneficial for them to study this farther, especially in older adults.

I know from working with the elderly that they do indeed think about sex often, and it is one of the contributors to cases of depression. Yet another social misconception we have is that only young healthy people think about it.

Frank Atanacio from Shelton on September 14, 2012:

What a well put together hub .. wait ( just thinking about sex ) okay back to my comment.. the research and hard work shows.. and hubs that have so much detail is clearly worth ( hold on.. thinking about sex again ) the read.. amazing piece this hub is internet worthy :) up and ( hold on again my thoughts of sex has entered my head) okay what was I saying oh yeah up and awesome and shared :) Frank

Tim Mitchell from Escondido, CA on September 14, 2012:

Hello Au fait. I have a smile going from ear to ear. I applaud you for undertaking this subject. Written from the stance of authority rather than opinion, while admitting it is only a ripple in a wide pond, I believe you addressed this befuddlement enthusiastically.

With that said, I would conclude the thought of sex, not necessarily the act, is constant and is disrupted with day to day activities. Maybe measuring those activities with the component of time, while calling that work, and then excluding sleep as likened to moments of 'sanctuary,' or humorously resting up from sex and work, we may discover a more reasonable and accurate answer for that befuddling dilemma we call 'life.'

Insert disclaimer here alluding to being speculation and/or opinion. :)

Again, emphatically I offer applause and respect, since you provided for opportunity of response with a question. It not only asked for the empirical, yet allowed for reasoning the answer.

Thoughts I will ponder later are sex, sexing, sexuality, with a grin 'sexting' - an accident waiting to happen?

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on September 14, 2012:

Fascinating studies for sure; you did a great job of research on this one; nice job!

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on September 14, 2012:

It took me 10 hours to get through this hub because I kept stopping to think about sex, and then I remembered I was hungry and then that reminded me of sex again. :)

Great information and an entertaining read. :) Voted up and more. Sharing.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 14, 2012:

xstatic, I was just hoping to have a quick listen on YouTube or wherever. I will keep it in mind. It may be added so one of the music sites one of these times. Thank you for checking on it for me.

Jim Higgins from Eugene, Oregon on September 13, 2012:

Darn, it is on their album The Early Years, and is available on Itunes for 99 cents for that song alone (About Sex).

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 13, 2012:

xstatic, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub. I checked both Chaise Lounge's website and YouTube in an effort to hear the song you mentioned, but neither had it. Thanks for stopping by!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 13, 2012:

Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment Geo!

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 12, 2012:

Carter06, I was surprised to discover I was not following you. Had thought I was. Well, now I am. Love your sense of humor and interesting hubs. Looking forward to more. Thanks again for commenting!

Jim Higgins from Eugene, Oregon on September 12, 2012:

Really interesting point of view. By the way, there is a great song, sung by the woman lead singer, by one of my favorite groups (from the DC area I think) called Chaise Lounge. The song is (You're) Thinking About Sex. It is funny and pointed too.

georges on September 12, 2012:

statistics are very interesting and I admire you for that.


C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 12, 2012:

Thank you for your comments, Jen!

Mary from Cronulla NSW on September 11, 2012:

Love that about you AF:)...cheers

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 11, 2012:

Thank you DDE for reading and commenting on my hub! Agree that sex is a natural part of life.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 10, 2012:

Thank you carter06 for reading and commenting on my hub! And thank you for sharing. I'm a bit disappointed though, that you didn't share some of your thoughts . . . ;) (Just teasing carter06)

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on September 10, 2012:

Thinking about sex is normal well-pointed out

Mary from Cronulla NSW on September 10, 2012:

Great hub Au really makes me appreciate how far we've come from the constraints that women endured, in society and in the bedroom...I agree that the expression 'thinking about sex should be defined as the expression can mean many different things to different people...You have put a lot of work into this most informative hub and I admire you for that...and no it's a little too public here on hubpages to share my thoughts & answer your question but I will be sharing this stellar hub...lots of votes...

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 10, 2012:

Thank you for reading and commenting Shyron! Hope you're having a great day.

C E Clark (author) from North Texas on September 09, 2012:

Thank you Tillsontitan, for reading and commenting on my hub! I do love your straight answers and that's a fact!!

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