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Facing hard Times:
People have been dealing with hard times for centuries, it's nothing new but that doesn't mean that we can't learn from the past and equip ourselves with the tools to handle ourself and the situation better when the going gets tough.
There are a few things you can do to help yourself deal with hard times better than before. For example, getting some exercise, or take up a hobby etc. These things might seem like small things, but they can really help your mental health and well-being during the difficult times ahead.
Ways to deal:
The first thing you should do is to take a deep breath and then try to figure out what is making you feel bad about the situation. This is an important first step because you need to be honest with yourself about what has been going on in your life and what has led you to feel this way.
Once you have figured out the source of your feelings, the next step is to come up with a plan for how you can handle that feeling and situation more effectively.
Below are some of the best ways you can use when going through hard time.
1 - Write It Out:
Has there been a time in your life when you wrote a mean email when you were angry, but then deleted it afterward? Despite not sending the e-mail, the fact is just by writing it down you probably felt happier, even though you didn't send it.
It's been proven that writing about an upsetting event can actually make you feel better after you have gone through it. It is partly due to the fact that writing organises your ideas, which results in a lessening the hectic experience.
Besides providing you with an emotional release, you can also gain insight into yourself when you write about the problem or your feelings and that will assist you ti putting the problem behind you.
Start with this:
- You should set aside a minimum of 20 minutes each day for a few days to write about what happened and how it made you feel.
- You need not worry about the grammar or the artistry of your writing. You are the one who needs this.
- Make sure you don't give up. Initially, it may seem painful to write about an uncomfortable experience but in the end, it will help you to move past the upsetting situation. Remember, if the event you are dealing with is particularly disturbing, such as rape or domestic violence, you may want to discuss this with a professional.
2 - Problem-solving:
It is strongly advise you not to waste your energy pointing the finger at someone else if you are dealing with a stressful situation. By doing so, you will only feel less empowered. It is more beneficial to do the following instead:
- Write all problems involved: The issues may seem easier to manage when you can write and see them on a piece of paper rather than imagining them in your head. Writing down problems actually makes them easier to tackle as also mentioned above.
- List all outcomes: For now, just be open to all the outcomes and try to control and silence your inner critic. Later, you will be able to narrow down and reject the undesired options.
- Assess: Identify all outcomes and roads leading to those outcomes. It is a good idea to ask yourself how you would like this situation that you are in to end or are there any options likely to lead you to your desired outcome? It is also a good idea to weigh the pros and cons of each option.
- Accept rational solutions: Studies have shown that searching for the perfect solution results in dissatisfaction, so choose the best and most reasonable solution that is also achievable.
- Start Again: There's nothing wrong if you don't succeed with the first solution you try. There are many other options you may try so, don't be afraid to start or try again.
3 - Shift Your Thinking:
A person's attitude to a problem can affect both how much it upsets them and how well they deal with it. In most cases, it pays to divert your mind from worrying or thinking about negative things. You can try these strategies:
- Be realistic: Sometimes we get swept up in our own thoughts and find ourselves in situations that might never even happen.
- Don't worry: You can also schedule worry time. Yes, you heard it right so you can tell yourself to wait each time a negative thought arises. By the time that time comes, you may feel happier.
Focus on the good: The concept of “focus on the good aspects of your life” is not new. It is a technique that has been used by therapists for decades and it is also a technique that has been used by psychologists to help people with anxiety disorders.
The idea behind this technique is to help the person who has a problem in their life to focus on the positive aspects of their life and not just the negative ones. This can be done by taking some time each day to write down three things that went well during that day or week that made them happy.
Learn from tough times: Tough situations only make you stronger and no matter how dar you situation might look now, it will improve.
Because it is when you are down you learn, learned about your true friends and how supportive they can be or you may have learned how strong you can be when you face tough times.
4 - Train your mind over emotions:
Training your mind to be stronger than your emotions is a proven method of gaining self-confidence and self-esteem. Consequently, you may begin to see that you not only can face hardship better, but also overcome challenges and achieve anything you set your mind on in hard times.
If you can master your mind to be stronger than your emotions, you will definitely gain the capable of overcoming all difficulties and obstacles in your way to achieve success over the long term.
5 - Get Support:
A little bit of help can sometimes make a big impact in someone's life.
Ask someone to give you a hand: Getting support is a key to success. If you are struggling there might be someone else who has faced the same problem and can help.
Don't be afraid to ask for advice: No one knows everything so it is highly advised to get a second opinion on the situation you are facing.
Encouragement: Venting, crying or expressing frustrations can relieve tension and stress. Consult a professional if necessary.
In order to deal with hard times, one should adopt the following mindset:
1. Accept that what you are going through is not your fault.
2. Take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings about what happened.
3. Learn skills for coping with life’s adversities, including how to regulate emotions, tolerate distress, solve problems, and engage in meaningful activity (e.g., work or leisure).
It is inevitable that we will face times in our lives that will be particularly stressful or that will even shake us to the core. If you are going through a time like that, having strong coping strategies can make all the difference.
The first step is to identify what is causing the problem. Is it a lack of money, time, or opportunity? Once you have identified the cause, come up with a plan for how to fix it.
If you are dealing with a lack of money, then figure out how to make more money. If you are dealing with a lack of time, then figure out how to spend less time on your daily tasks. If you are dealing with a lack of opportunity, then figure out how to create opportunities for yourself.
The second step is to come up with an action plan and put it into practice. This may include cutting back on spending habits that are not necessary or quitting your job if it's not working for you anymore. It may also include making some sacrifices in order to save
Dealing with difficult times is a particularly useful technique, so learn and implement them in your life if you want to live better.