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We have all been through those difficult times with someone at some point in our lives. That's a yes! Here are the most common approaches to understand people, which can be used every day. These tricks should not be misunderstood because they are not intended as a way to manipulate or upset others, but rather to improve one's communication and relationships overall. These 10 tricks will help you gain a deeper understanding of the people around you.
1. First impressions are the best impressions.
The phrase always rang in our ears. People generally use this technique when they are first trying to understand people they have never met before or when someone approaches them who they are unfamiliar with. Now you might be wondering how to succeed in this initial step. Here are the 10 best ways to deal with this issue.
- Dress to impress, that is the very first thing people notice about you.
- Be on time.
- Always Be Yourself.
- Wear your perfect smile.
- Politeness matters.
- Body language speaks a lot.
- Avoid unnecessary questions and jokes.
- Address people around you by their names.
- Talk less and Hear more
- Lastly, make people feel important.
2. Make others pay attention to you
When you're going to meet someone new or entering a newly designed space, whether it's a classroom or a workstation, ask them what they know about their colleagues or the manager. This is where you should be attentive to the person by being a good listener, this is the best way to get a person's attention and are less likely to break the initial bond. You can also opt for being more energetic because people who keep themselves busy are more likely to catch the attention of others and to maintain the best impression. The above-mentioned methods can also be used here to grab attention. In addition to these,
- A person's name is the most beautiful thing about themselves, so telling their name will make them adore you more.
- The art of mirroring body language is an added bonus.
- Take the initiative and ask surprising questions.
- Learn to listen better.
- Don't take yourself so seriously.
3. Find out if someone is secretly watching you.
If you ever want to learn someone is looking at you try yawning. This phenomenon is called contagious yawning. No matter what, people yawn when they see others doing it. Contagious yawning is an indication of empathy. Feel free to give it a try if you are interested in checking this out.
4. Making people believe in you.
This trick really works for me. You do this when you begin a sentence with "I think" when you are not sure of the outcome. Try leaving out the word “I think” when you talk to your friends and colleagues from now on, they might take you more seriously.
5. How to deal with people who stare at you.
Consider yourself in a bus or standing anywhere alone and you feel like someone is staring at you don’t utter a word just look at their leg/shoes. Even the strongest of men gets distracted and leaves the place.
6. Don't let people forget you.
If you want people to have a lasting impression on you, always start and end the conversation with your name and details. People are likely to remember the first and last words of most scenes. Take yourself as an example when memorizing names, I find that I tend to speak out the first and last names and not many in between. Depending on your situation, you may also have the option to hold onto the first assumption by finding something you both have in common, such as the same native land. This makes a "like me" attachment.
7. Obtain information without asking questions.
Asking questions is the way to learn things from someone, isn't it? I've got a secret trick for getting them to answer without even asking. Try asking one of your friends something you're curious about while maintaining eye contact and remaining silent. Your friend will automatically continue to talk if you do this.
8. Getting annoyed when someone talks too much.
The point comes in all our lives where we get annoyed with the person in front of us blabbering on and on and we are least interested. Next time you get annoyed by excessive talking, just look straight at the center of their forehead. Their words become disjointed and confused as a result.
9. Write down your feelings when you are stressed.
All of us experience upset in our lives at some point. Next time you are feeling a certain emotion, write it down in a book. You are much more focused and relaxed because you've shared your burden with someone else. Alternatively, most psychologists recommend writing it down on paper and throwing it in the trash.
10. Food is the best way to avoid conflict.
Using food to calm people down or diffuse unpleasant situations is a brilliant idea. If you are in an argument with someone, go to the nearest restaurant and order a delicious meal for them. The taste and smell of the food bring your attention to the plate and help ease tension.
11. Maintain your calm in the face of a raised voice.
Keep silent if someone yells at you. This will make the person sitting opposite us feel guilty and decrease the anger that he feels. Usually, this person will be the first to seek forgiveness.
12. Limit your options if you cannot make a choice.
It is common for people to consider all the factors before making a decision. This has to be changed since more choices divert the mind from one's destiny. If you want to make effective decisions, give yourself a limited number of options at once. This will give you enough time to think about each option, while still giving you a chance to consider new ones.
6 Best Books to Understand Human Nature :
- Atomic Habits: Full of practical insights and tips, this will inspire you to make that tiny change today.
- Emotional Intelligence: This book is filled with wisdom, inspiration, and practical advice, rooted in groundbreaking research. The authors’ positive strategies are immensely powerful and will change the way you look at your life, your work, and the world.
- How to win Friends & Influence People: One of the most ground-breaking self-help books of all time, helping and inspiring millions of readers along the way in achieving their true potential.
- How to Talk to Anyone: This book comes up with 92 little tricks for successful relationships and will make you a better communicator.
- What Every Body is Saying: This book clearly demonstrates how to modify your subconscious statements to your greatest advantage and also read what other people are "saying" nonverbally.
- The H Factor of Personality: The books that help you in reading people and a lot about yourself.
Try these tricks, and you'll notice a tremendous difference in how people see you.
Interested in trying any of these? What do you think? Your thoughts are welcome.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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