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The Art of Seduction: How to Seduce a Woman


Have you ever heard, "Let's just be friends"?

Attention Men:

How do you get a woman into bed? How do you get a decent girl to be your girlfriend?

Well, I guess you already know. You talk to her in nice ways. You be nice to her friends. You buy her food at fancy restaurants. You buy her flowers. You buy her jewelry.

And then, if you're real good, she'll be your girlfriend and end your sexual starvation.

If you're lucky.

We know that's how it works, because we see it in the movies. We read it in books. We hear it from our friends (who are just as unsuccessful as we are). We know this to be true.

Just as people used to know that the world was flat.


You see, women have all the power. They decide. They choose. They select the men to go out with. They accept and keep the gifts. They decide when – sorry, if – they'll sleep with you.

And who is it that demands equal rights?

There's More

Then there's more. Just about every man can relate this story. You make some totally innocuous remark, perhaps you even complimented your girlfriend, and she explodes in anger. You're left with you hands in the air, saying helplessly, "But what did I do? What did I say?"

The woman not only decides whether (and when) to let you have her, she also decides what mood to be in at any point. And Heaven forbid that you should ever lose your temper with her!

The Jerk

But perhaps you know some jerk who went out with a woman you'd been chasing. He isn't half as nice as you are. He doesn't treat her half as well. He doesn't even have as much money as you. He definitely hasn't known her as long as you have!

What does she see in him that you don't have?

What, what, what?

Why can't you get to sleep with half-decent girls? Why should they hold all the power?

The "Neg"

Well, perhaps you've found some tips and hits on "how to seduce women". I found one course that teaches men to "neg" women. ("Neg" means "treat women like dirt". Make them feel insecure and inferior.) And pounce!

It's the only way (so I was told) to turn the tables. To take back the power.

I gotta be honest with you. It does work. Mostly. I know, because I've tried. But you know what? It left a bad taste in my mouth. I didn't enjoy it, for two very good reasons.

  1. It meant making women feel bad. I don't want to do that. This world is a great place, and I would rather leave women better off than when I first met them. Making them feel insecure and inferior just doesn't fit with my ethics and personality.
  2. I don't want to act that way. I want to be myself, my own personality, and still have women appreciate me for who I am. And leave them better off than when I found them… if I choose to move on.
  3. (Oh yes, I forgot about number 3.) Sometimes, some guy would come along who wouldn't "neg" the women and make them feel insecure and inferior. In fact, he would make the women feel great.

    Guess what… He went home with the hottest girl. I was left feeling stupid. And alone.

Live demonstration of the right way to do things!

What Did He Do?

Good question: What did that guy do? Although I watched and listened hard, I just couldn't figure out what he was doing. He'd walk up to a girl – perhaps even the one I'd been after – and within seconds he had her attention. Within minutes, she was ignoring everyone else, and you could already see that he'd got her.

It seemed like magic to me.

Magic? You Bet!

I became determined to learn this magic. Do you know how I found out about it?

I asked. (Simple, huh?)

He told me about a course he'd done. Well, I was skeptical. I'd already done a course. It worked, sort of, most of the time, and meant acting out of character. So I just ignored his advice and carried on winning some, losing some, in the name of seduction — hating myself all the way.

Dumb, huh?

The Final Straw

One night, I’d been working on a hot chick. I’d done all the right things, all the right moves, all the right “neg”s. We’d got to the kissing part. I had her well interested in me. (And as I said, I still didn’t enjoy doing it because it wasn’t me. It was all an act, this “negging” and stuff.)

And guess who walked up? Yeah, that guy. It took him less than a minute – yes, less than sixty seconds! – to get her attention. A few minutes later and the deal was done. For him, not me. Dammit!

Then he looked at me, smiled, and winked. I was just about to bust his ass…

And then, at that moment, I realized. He’d just shown me the power of his advice.

I went home (alone) and ordered the course!

Convert fear & hesitation into cool energy

The Reality

When a man has the power, he's the one who seduces. The woman is the one who follows. The man decides. The woman hopes. The man selects. The woman preens herself. The man holds the power.

Because the man holds the power, he can treat the woman as well as he wants without worrying about if he's doing the right thing. He can leave her feeling better off than when he found her, without spending half his wage on her.

Can you imagine that sort of power? Can you imagine choosing the hottest girl in the room and knowing you can get her? Having a great girl over your arm, adoring and loyal, and you know exactly what to do if she throws a typical woman's temper tantrum?

I couldn't imagine it was even possible. Until I'd done the course.

(Hey… Next time you're getting on with that hot chick and some guy walks up and just takes her away from you… It may be me! Don't' hit me; just order the course. I need some competition to keep me on my toes!)

The Art of Seduction

You see, the art of seduction is where you have the ability to ignite her emotional and sexual fire… with just your words! You don't even have to touch her to get her blazing hot for you.

All the movie scenes you see? Forget about them. They are so far away from reality that they belong in Hollywood.

How to Seduce a Woman

When you know how to seduce a woman, you get to know her and understand her during your very first conversation. Just as all of us are programmed to respond to certain things in life, so are women. Especially beautiful women: They are so accustomed to studs approaching them that they automatically turn off.

You need to turn them back on! In fact, these beautiful women are dying to be turned on. They need to be seduced, set on fire, blazing hot for a decent man.

So if you're a decent man, I want you to learn about this, too. (If you're not a decent man, I guess you won't even have read this far anyway; you'll have "negged" a woman who enjoys being abused.)

Think about all the money you've spent on women for nothing or little in return. I did. Heck, hiring prostitutes would have cost me less!

Well, guess what: Money won't seduce her. It won't set her on fire. It won't get her blazing hot. (Money may get her into bed for a while, but it's an expensive way to lay a woman.)

Here's how the magic begins


I've been asked this question: "Aren't you afraid that people will do this course and leave fewer women for you?"

Don't be daft! Only someone who thinks that beautiful women are in short supply would think such a thing. Go to an on-line dating club and see how many women are desperate to find a good man! The thing is, these women go to clubs, to work, the gym, or wherever, and get the same old tired routine from all the men: The nice words, the flowers, the dates, blah blah blah…

Not one of them turns her on!

These women are not desperate for men (they could easily get a man into bed). They're desperate for men who know how to seduce a woman!

Never again need I feel shot down by that sultry maiden sitting right across from me in Starbucks. Never again need I feel nervous approaching a strange woman. Never again need I wonder, "Will I get lucky?"

Instead, she is left wondering if she will get lucky – with me!

Nah! This stuff can't work!

No, of course not. Why should it?

Because it does, that's why!

In fact, the course comes with a simple guarantee:

"You don't get laid, I don't get paid!"

That's cool! I'd love to go to a doctor: "You don't get better, I don't get richer."

Read more and find questions answered by visiting the art of seduction.

What's your feedback? I want you ideas and opinions!

SANJESH nitendra deo on June 28, 2020:

Im still a single boy from fiji islands im a friendly n cheering boy who loves life n want to enjoy life i respect every one n every race n i don't im still a virgin boy how can i attract a women im tired of my life im 41 now cant get any lady wat i do

Grace on June 19, 2012:

Look guys, its not all about looks or having s system, its about knowing and trusting each other. My boyfriend ASKS before he does anything sexual to me and, trust me, a girl will appreciate a guy who asks her about what she likes in bed BEFORE you actually get in bed and will let you know exactly what you should do to please her and, ultimately, please yourself. It's not being a whimp or a pansy, it's being a considerate gentleman. That's all women want nowadays anyway, no matter they say, cause, unless they have some issues, every girl will go for a gentleman who treats them right before getting "laid" over some prick with a few "smooth" moves. Take it from a woman, only women truly know how to seduce a woman and can teach a man, not another man.

santanu on May 14, 2012:

it would be a great help to have the books or cds & really a charming magic .pl let me take yourph.no.first to order

Marcolb on December 13, 2011:

I like it it tells us facts about men and women I was just curious to see if I am doing well apparently I do ;)

Brad on July 19, 2011:

Definitely added to my knowledge on women!

Awesome video aswell.

Yepper on July 01, 2011:

I have found that alcohol works the best.

tesha on September 22, 2010:

lalalalalalalalalalalllalalalalalala...... i have fun having sex and u even loose calories

Doctor Sam on April 22, 2010:

Hey I think you are an angel, keep up the good work.

Bob on December 07, 2009:

Alright Devon,

Please tell me why the women in your life have eventually gone for the jerk that cares more about himself and considers women to be noting more then trophies.

Stop avoiding the subject of how connections between people really work and open up your awareness to notice what's really going on! The difference between the Speed Seducer and the 'Average Frustrated Chump' - detailed below:

This is a system for all, not for your above description of the 'Suplicator' the 'listener' and the 'nice guy' that women generally pretend to like, walk all over and only humor out of pity and abuse, because let be honest! Guys in this category hardly ever achieve moist relief other then using their hand. These guys are good to hold on to and use until the one comes along that can sweep her off her feet.

Keeping in mind I'm not talking about crazy people here = Remember these lines, keep them in mind the next time a sane woman says "Lets Just Be Friends".

Bob on October 10, 2009:

To "The ZoMbiE Rescue Squad".

I find it interesting how your limited understanding of the world instantaneously decided that the ‘Hottest chick with a great personality’ can only be a two way street.

Possibly you’re used to settling for second best? Maybe third? Who knows? It’s none of my business. Just because you’ve limited your own success with women to silly bimbos that are only interested in the immature, shallow and fake media trained, supplicating loser of a man with a week ego and superiority complex, does not mean that every man on this planet is obliged to share that insane point of view.

My well treated, bombshells often ask me if they can bring a friend along because of the deep trusting connection they feel towards me, so much so that they feel the need to share what they have discovered with their closest friends.

‘The ZoMbiE Rescue Squad’ - Now that name just radiates mental health and stability!

Now, I don’t often judge, I cannot however rationalise with your comment on Speed Seducers requiring mental health treatment? We more often than not turn down shallow, mentally challenged and over eager women. Speed Seducers generally leave those women to the type of person you’ve demonstrated as being in your post. The reason is that we prefer sane, balanced, elegant ladies that are physically attractive and switched on; the exquisite skill between the sheets that often accompanies this type of woman is a bonus.

Don’t worry though, it’s not a total loss, you can always grow out of your mental limitations. Possibly, even you, can learn and truly experience, BEFORE criticising a method of understanding, connecting and evoke powerful feelings of comfort,

wanton desire and

ecstasy with the women in your life.

But maybe I’m wrong this time.

The ZoMbiE Rescue Squad on October 10, 2009:

Looking for the "hottest" chick with a "great" personality is a two way street

I think the bright personality thing has limits..

Yes, I am sure a fat guy with a bad complexion can have an attractive personality is a "empowering" thing.

But I think when it comes down to it, a good looking, muscular, tanned guy can walk in and make women look, and they will ignore the fat guy/bad completion with an attractive personality is nada compared to that good looking guy that walked in.

If that's your only purpose is to "score", "get laid" or "seduce" a "hot-looking" woman.

If that's your shallow "looks" based tactics, then you better work out, get in shape, get clearer skin and most importantly get some mental health treatment for low self-esteem.

cosmicFirefly on March 21, 2009:

Aren't we supposed to dance together? Isn't this dance all around forming the chain of life ... Mother Nature's fantasic design. It is in almost all evolved animals in the planet.

We humans must be very evolved to be talking about which gender is better or worse off than the other :). hehehe ....

Yared on February 04, 2009:

I think it is better that the power is with them(women) otherwise it is tastless.

Carl on October 10, 2008:

Archie? Did I just see 'half a chance' ? Why limit yourself to half a chance, when you can have it all? I don't know about you buddy, but if you're potential in success in this area of your life is just a little bit more than 'half a chance' , then it's time to re-think your strategy in life. I sincerely hope that you don't limit all areas of your life with that strategy.

archie on October 10, 2008:

its all a lie! we are as different as our faces are! theres no clear cut out rules! but being one's self is a start!

and there are a whole categories of women! nay. men too so its all about what makes a particular individual tick! you have an insight into what makes a particular woman tick and how you can connect to that then u have more than half a chance!

Funny Pick Up Lines on September 08, 2008:


worst nightmare on August 25, 2008:


y54.com on June 17, 2008:

Hi All,

Love the comments, those who disagree and those who agree both inspire me, Thank you! I enjoy all but the boring comments. And even those who choose to judge other’s opinions, although head this warning: Sinclair is right about being sincere, some people are and some don’t know themselves well enough to be truly sincere and caring, it’s not their fault. They just were doing the best they knew how at the time. What I love about Speed Seduction is not the continuous ability to constantly woo the most beautiful women that most only dream of.

It’s not the fact that it allows the less then average man to reach porn star level multiple partners that adore him and spoil him rotten without him having to reach for his wallet. I mean I’m fat, hairy and you have no idea the success I have with women.

It’s none of those. These are only perks of the truth that is Speed Seduction. It’s the fact that it awakens the sincerity in the person studying it,it awakens unparalleled self awareness and allows the person to awaken their own attractiveness and passion for life that we all already have inside ourselves but few tap into this latent power.

If you’ve taken the time to leave a comment, then this article has done its job by triggering the emotional responses in you, to the point where you have taken the action to respond. Now this was done with a few words on a page, imagine for a moment how powerful the emotional responses are in person using this technology.

Keep them coming, these responses are becoming more and more interesting.

I wish you all great love, passion and Joy in your lives, not to mention abundance of moist relief.


Sinclair on June 17, 2008:

High read this and thought what a complete pr**k. If you want to get a woman into bed be honest funny caring and supportive. I promise that if you are a sincere person and make her feel safe your in. The same goes for women meeting men (does not help to take 15/20 mins giving instead of getting. This always works for me and I am sure most women would agree. You are a poor little looser cashing in on other poor little loosers. I would not reply to this kind of thing but I had an hour spare waiting for my wonderfull slim 6' tall german girlfriend to come home from work. Guess that makes me right and you sad...

Seduction on May 20, 2008:

Seduction is best when the women thoroughly enjoys the process.

Jeremy on May 19, 2008:

You're completely right of course.


Lucy on May 18, 2008:

"You clearly don't get the message."

Right back at you...

Who's link is that in your first comment to wordpress? Using it to your own benefit for what ever reason?

A wise man once said: “The problem with clever people who rely solely on their intellect, is that once they make up their minds about something, they delete every other magnificent possibility and opportunity, losing out on most of the joy they were destined to experience in life.”

I know that stating the obvious for you is one of your strong points, I wondered if you’d grow out of that infancy in communication.

I’m no longer wondering, it’s clear now that my time is wasted in dwarfing your limited understanding in the world even more.

The more I think about it.

The more I realise you’re doing fine on your own.

Enjoy this message, because understanding it is something you’ll try to

again and again.

Lucy on May 17, 2008:

I wonder is anyone commenting here is actually paying attention to the message?

This is a problem for a lot of men around the world and a solution is being provided that benefits men and the women in their lives, because it not only open's up their minds to new possibilities, it also allows for cleaner and more efficient emotional communication.

Jeremy, are you one of those guys that used to tell on all the other kids as a child? Then use their pain to your own benefit?

I wonder if you'll ever grow out of it?

Best of luck :-)


AW on April 09, 2008:

Seduction is best if the woman is fully part of the process and not something that is somehow done to her. You both have power, it's not one or the other. Women can teach men a lot about how best to approach seduction. And it can be thoroughly enjoyable for both.

mike king from california on March 22, 2008:

Can Someone Please Tell me How to Stop Being a Jerk About Sex?

We don't hear this question much, but maybe we should, or better still, maybe the boys on the prowl should settle down long enough to get a glimpse of what this thing between boys and girls is all about.

There certainly are some interesting notions out there about what people are all about, I must say. Count this as a comment but I believe I would like to write a blog because there is so much more I want to say than just comment on your page. So, allow me to just briefly say:

Men are losing out not so much because they "can't get laid" or "can't get a woman. And they are losing, make no mistake about it. Is the male today really a model for what nature intended as a mate? Nature must have planned for boys and girls to meet and more, to feel mutual attraction, and if sexually attracted, to mate and provide support , and mutual protection for themselves and a family.

Anyone familiar with Shakespeare at all, knows that he knew what the girls know., and make no mistake about it, the boys in their pantiloons in Eliazbethin England were more hip to the wily whims of the fairer sex then the dunderheads today. Even the crudest lout in Shakespeares barn could give the wimpy, apologistic "lovers" of the 21st Century some lessons on bareback riding, archery, and the art of ...well that's for me blog, mates.

Privateye you have opened the proverbial can of worms, provocative and honest, for you at least, the quest is over. I suspect,however, there are far greater numbers of unenlightened, who roam lonely and, egads! Without. I hope to explore this gamey subject more in a blog you have given me the idea to write.


You Are A Creator from London on March 20, 2008:

Ross Jeffries is a great teacher. It is not just about bedding women. He wants to open you up to how to act as a man. If you want to learn about hypnosis, NLP, language skills, confidence and a whole lot more and maybe find your soulmate along the way - he is the guy to listen to. He practices what he preaches. He does like the sound of his own voice and he does like attention, but he is worth your time - women included.

privateye2500 from Canada, USA, London on March 17, 2008:

h d - WOW - you are a REAL JERK and I am sure that is the ONLY way you could get *any* unless

you DO JERK!

and Y54 - are you SURE you are the kind of guy that knows what he's taking about???

Sam on March 11, 2008:

Interesting comments here, I wonder what you'd say if you, a friend, sister or mother has been a subject of such technology and you wouldn't even know it! - does a pig know it's in Shit?

h d on March 10, 2008:

power my ass, rent them when you need them, no bullshit, no hassel

Wendy Iturrizaga from France on December 05, 2007:

You are right in one thing: WE HAVE THE POWER.

Good luck !

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