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Ice Breakers for Groups

Impersonal Introductions

Over the years, I have been rather involved in community work, which has landed me in front of thousands of people. I have helped to run retreats, have spoken at conferences and schools, held training seminars for groups of 20-60 people, have worked with small, individual groups, and (in high school) led assemblies. I have been in television commercials, on the radio, and in newspapers. I am not listing accomplishments to embellish my accomplishments, but to show that I really do have experience as a public speaker.

Even with my experience, speaking to and in front of groups can be intimidating. In fact, public speaking tops the ranks of phobias amongst the entire human race. Reaction is everything, and speakers have no control over the audience's reaction. Additionally, public speakers must keep the audience engaged. I do that by relating to the audience, by way of icebreakers. This can be as simple as cracking a joke to as involved as playing a game.

Icebreakers are not something that you would normally do at a conference or symposium. I do not mean to mislead; this hub will not necessarily help with either of those situations (you can certainly try, if appropriate). However, with any type of group setting (cessation classes, classrooms, business meetings, new-hire trainings, therapy groups, etc.), it is essential to establish a common ground between group members. That itself is a powerful way to start, and will lead to better focus, more togetherness, and more trust in you as a leader/speaker.

Introductions can be so impersonal, but, moreover, are sometimes awkward and uncomfortable, as "all eyes are on you". The following icebreaker ideas will help set the tone, ease tensions, and allow each person the glimmer of a spotlight, without the glare in their eyes as they gaze out at the audience. These are just suggestions, and work well in a multitude of settings. If one does not appeal to you, simply tweak it to fit your needs. The suggestions are broad, and not necessarily age-specific.



I made this up for a retreat. It was a hit, and I still have my ball, ten years later.

This suggestion is very inexpensive, easy to do (therefore, easy to instruct), and can be made to fit the needs of the group.

All that you need is a rubber playground-style ball (light in color) or a beachball, and a permanent marker. All over the ball, write numerous questions with the permanent marker.

You can use simple questions, like "What is your name?" or "Where were you born?" to questions pertaining to the reason that the group is together. For instance, if the icebreaker is being done at a therapy group, questions like "What is your favorite season?" or "Do you have any pets?" - questions that usually help cultivate good, relaxing feelings. For work, you could use questions like "What is one way you would improve the work atmosphere?" or "How long have you been in this field?"

Okay, now that you have the questions, lead off with the ball in your hands, and the rest of the group in a connecting circle. Bounce the ball to someone else. However they catch the ball, there should be an easily accessible question. Whatever that question may be, they must read it aloud, answer it, and then pass the ball to someone else.

Make it as silly or professional; personal or impersonal; fact or fiction... it's entirely up to you, the leader/speaker.

2 Lies, 1 Truth

There are not many variations to this one, but it is pretty well-known. This is a fun "game", and can be done for groups of any age, and any size.

Simply instruct everyone to (silently) think of 2 "lies" about themselves, and one truth. The lies could be a twist on something true, like if someone has 3 children/siblings, that person could say "I have five children/siblings." Or, it could be something completely off-the-wall, like "I have flown in a space shuttle."

Then, of course, the truth... You can make this specific to the group, or general. Specific, as in having everyone tell one truth about their battle with cancer (for a support group), something that they accomplished (work), or one thing that they did over the summer (school class).

Have each person tell their 2 lies and 1 truth - in any order - to the rest of the group. Then, have the entire group shout out which of the 3 they think is the "truth". Have the person advise the group as to which is true, and maybe tell a bit about the truth... Normally, people easily think of a "truth". That means that it is something either fresh on their mind, or meaningful. It may be a good conversation starter.

Would you rather?

I have heard teens play this before, and have seen versions of the game in stores. Funny, I am pretty sure that it started out as an icebreaker!

There are a few variations to this one. Here is my rendition:

Have everyone think of a "Would you rather..." question. You can ask that it be related to the group setting, if desired. Give everyone a few minutes to think. Once everyone has one in mind, have one person start, by asking his/her question. Then, have each person say which they would rather, or decide collectively as a group. Some questions may be more intense than others and may be provocative, and some may lead to a great discussion. No matter what, it will bring out one's personality, and could make for interesting fun!

Here are some suggestion "Would you rather..." questions:

  • "Would you rather spend a day alone on a deserted island, or with thousands of people at a world event?"
  • "Would you rather find true love or win the lottery?"
  • (For work) "Would you rather have 3 weeks of vacation time, or work 6 hours a day, but be paid for 8?"
  • (For kids) "Would you rather spend the day at the zoo, or spend the day at the library?"
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Never Have I Ever..

I did this one, I believe, with a church youth group. I may have used it when working with a boys' home, too, teaching tobacco cessation. Regardless, it is fun, and thought-provoking. Make sure that it does not get too out of hand, though, as it easily can! (So, you may want to give boundaries.)

Have everyone stand in a circle, while you stand in the middle. Have everyone hold up one hand, with three fingers up, and two down (as if signing the number 3). Then, say "Never have I ever..." followed by something that you yourself have not done. So, myself, I would say "Never have I ever been to Australia". Then, anyone that has done whatever it is, puts 1 finger down. Pick someone else to say a "Never have I ever..." statement. Continue until the group has collectively decided that they are done, or until everyone's fingers are down.

Another way that this could be played is:

Have everyone stand in the circle, with you in the middle. Say a "Never have I ever..." statement. Whomever has done that thing, races to the middle of the circle. If more than one person does, whomever gets to the middle first, remains. You join the circle, and the person who raced to the middle then says a "Never have I ever..." statement. Let the game go for about ten minutes, as it may get somewhat exhausting, or -as previously mentioned- out of hand.

This icebreaker may be more suitable for a younger group, like middle school to college range.


Acting Mixer

Acting Mixer (I just made up a name for it; not very clever, I know...) is great for both kids and adults.

Regardless of the group size, this is rather easy to do, and very entertaining. You will need one index card for each person attending. Decide whether to go with a theme or not. A theme could be "movies", "school subjects", or "holidays". On the front of each card, write down a noun, like "Marilyn Monroe", "Godzilla", "smart phone", or "Christmas tree". When everyone arrives, pass out the cards, back/blank-side up. Advise everyone not to turn the card over (not to read what is written on it). Then, ask everyone to find another person to pair with, or randomly pair them yourself.

Now, from here, you can have one person go at a time, or both at the same time. There are many ways to do this. Here's the most basic:

Have each person stick the index card to their shirt or forehead (use tape, or just hold it there). At this point, the other person in the pair will see what the card says, still no one should know what their own says. Advise that the pairs have 5 minutes to act out (or act like) what the card says (like charades). You can add rules, if you would like, such as "You can not say what is on the card." That, though, should go without saying. Anyway, each person tries to guess what their card says.

Another way to do this, is to still attach the card, but have each person introduce him/herself and have a conversation, while acting as/like what is on the other person's card. Again, trying to guess what their own card says.

Conversational Icebreakers

If you do not feel the need to have the group on their feet and moving, but would rather have them thinking and talking more, conversational icebreakers are the way to go. Here are a few ideas:

  • "My movie". -Ask everyone to think about their life as a movie. Who would be the starring actor/actress, in what language would it be, where would it be shot/made? Have each person share.
  • "Name and number." -Ask everyone to introduce themselves by telling the group their name, and then a number... The number of children/siblings they have, the number of years they have been in remission, worked in that particular department/location, been alive, lived in their current house, etc. It could be anything! I do not, however, recommend giving a phone number or address! =]
  • "Name game." -Have each person explain how/why their parents named them as they did. If someone does not know (explain this ahead of time, to avoid an uncomfortable moment), have them make up a story.

Here are some other questions that you could ask to evoke a response, and have each person share his/her answer:

  • "Would you want to live forever?"
  • "What is your favorite quotation?"
  • "If you could have dinner with anyone famous (dead or alive), who would it be?"
  • "If you won the lottery, what is the first thing that you would do?"
  • "What is one humanitarian effort that you would do, if you had limitless resources?"
  • "What is your favorite love song?"

There are endless thought-provoking questions that could be asked of a group. Try not to ask too difficult or too personal a question. The idea of conversational icebreakers to ease and relax people; to spark creativity.

A couple for the kids

You may remember doing one or two of these at summer camp. They're cheap, fun ways to foster team building and trust in younger people.

  • "Inside out circle." - Have everyone stand in a circle, and hold hands. Then, without breaking the circle, try to turn it "inside out"! (Instead of facing inwards, everyone would face out.)
  • "TP time." - Have each person take some toilet paper from a roll (however much they would like, but try to limit it). Once everyone has some TP, have each person say one nice or interesting thing about him/herself... for each piece of TP he/she has!
  • "Human knot." Have everyone stand closely to each other (as if in a huddle), and hold out their hands. Then, have everyone grab two other hands. The thing is, though, the two other hands can not belong to the same person. Everyone should be somewhat intertwined. Once everyone is connected, have the group try to disassemble (and ultimately form a circle), without letting go of each other.
  • "My name starts with..." Have each person say their name, and then say one nice/interesting thing about him/herself using the first letter of their name.

Kids and Families

No more "chill" in the air

Break the ice with something light-hearted, thought-provoking, or relaxing, and you will have a more willing and attentive group. Whatever the occasion, icebreakers are a great, inexpensive way to boost confidence, ease tensions, get to know one another, and foster team building.

These ideas can be used for many other occasions, like holiday get-togethers or kids' birthday parties.


Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on May 08, 2015:

I love your ideas here, Veronica. It's very handy and useful for any stressful situation on meeting new people and for public speaking. Voted up!

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 13, 2013:

That is great! I probably would have chosen that one as a truth. :) I appreciate your reading and input.

Mel Carriere from Snowbound and down in Northern Colorado on July 10, 2013:

I've done the 2 truths, 1 lie icebreaker before and I found it to be very effective for loosening up a group. I am a tall man, and my "lie" was that I played basketball when I was younger. I have never been a basketball player, but naturally because I was tall everyone thought that was a truth. Very nice suggestions here.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on February 04, 2013:

Thank you very much, Bill! I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your comment!

Bill Russo from Cape Cod on January 08, 2013:

Fabulous take on this. From what I see, good public speakers are an endangered species. I love your enthusiasm.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on December 03, 2012:

Exactly - creating a good atmosphere is so important! :) Thank you for your comment, votes, & for sharing this hub!

Ebonny from UK on November 29, 2012:

Great ideas for starting interaction and creating a good atmosphere. Thanks for sharing. Voted up etc.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 14, 2012:

Very good! Please let me know when you've finished your hub. I'll put a link from this hub to it.

Thank you for your comment! I look forward to reading your ideas. :)

Louisa Rogers from Eureka, California and Guanajuato, Mexico on November 14, 2012:

These are great! Thanks! I'm a trainer / facilitator and was thinking of also writing a hub on icebreakers-- and fortunately the ones I was thinking of are all different. I was familiar with only two of yours. Definitely will bookmark this.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on September 24, 2012:

You are awesome for having shared this, Sunshine! Thank you!!! :)

Kids LOVE the question ball. Having a moment in the spotlight -while sharing something at the same time- always seems to get kids engaged. You're probably such a cool neighborhood mom!! Let me know if you do it & how it goes!

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on September 23, 2012:

I'm going to get a playground ball and marker, that's a great idea! I would like to do this with the neighborhood kids as they gather in my front yard and looking for entertainment. They would have a blast! So would I. Excellent hub Veronica!

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on June 11, 2012:

Prairieprincess, thank you so much for your wonderful comment! I am so glad that the hub brought about memories for you, and that you could easily relate to it! I really appreciate you stopping by! =]

Vellur - Thank you for your vote & comment!

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on June 05, 2012:

Wonderful icebreakers to start off with. Voted up.

Sharilee Swaity from Canada on June 04, 2012:

Veronica, these are great ideas! I have used several of these exercises as a teacher, usually in drama class. I also tried the "Would you rather" thing with my stepson, to build rapport. The one that is new to me is the Q-ball, and I love it! What a cool idea!

I have been out of teaching fulltime for two years but this brings back a lot of great memories. You have explained everything very well. Very interesting hub! Voted up and more, plus sharing!

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on January 21, 2012:

Yes, please! I could use some pointers! It's more difficult for me because -although I feel that I'm a thorough and fair trainer- if someone just isn't "getting it", I tend to get a bit impatient. It's hard to take a step back & remember that I've learned what I've learned over time and with the help of others. I have to force myself to just take a deep breath and go with it.

Anyway, I look forward to it! =]

Tams R from Missouri on January 21, 2012:

One on one was my favorite. I found it more focused to my needs of that particular person I have a technique that worked well, I feel a new hub coming. Hmmm. Thanks for the idea.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on January 21, 2012:

Haha! I honestly miss the days of public speaking and training. Now when I train, it's one on one, which I actually find a bit harder than training groups.

Very true! I haven't tried it on a road trip. I wish the boys were just a bit older - it'd probably work! =] Great idea!

Tams R from Missouri on January 21, 2012:

Where were you when I was supervising groups and had a weekly meeting? Great information. Also, Would you rather will keep kids entertained for 2000 miles. Trust me!

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 27, 2011:

I know very, very few "great" public speakers! haha It's all a matter of perspective, I suppose!

Thanks for reading, and for commenting! =]

PeanutButterWine from North Vancouver, B.C. Canada on November 27, 2011:

I am a terrible public speaker; this is a great Hub! Lots of wonderful tips... thanks for sharing :)

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 27, 2011:

I bet that was a challenge, but pretty exciting at the same time! Was it for a school event, or an art class?

Thank you for reading & commenting, jfay2011! =]

jfay2011 on November 26, 2011:

I've never spoken in a large group except to give a slide show of my artwork to teenagers.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 19, 2011:


Thank you very much! You are always so kind, and give excellent feedback. It's funny that I still get very nervous in front of groups of people that I know. If it's strangers, I'm fine. I don't get it. =]

SanneL from Sweden on November 19, 2011:

Wow! I really admire people like you, Veronica.

Speaking to and in front of large groups has never been my strongest suit. However, I have no problem with small ones. This hub is so helpful! I'm bookmarking, voted up and pushed all the right buttons. Well done!


Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 18, 2011:

INF Jay: Yes, definitely! Thank you for adding that! =] And, thank you for reading and commenting!

Jay Manriquez from Santa Rosa, California on November 18, 2011:

Great ideas for trainers too! Thanks.

Veronica Roberts (author) from Ohio, USA on November 18, 2011:

Thank you! Such a great compliment! I appreciate that, especially since this hub is particularly looong. =]

I have a few other ideas, but had to stop somewhere! lol

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on November 18, 2011:

These are great! I wish more public speakers used some of your ideas. Maybe then, there wouldn't be so much sleeping at conferences. :o) Your writing style is so engaging that it just makes me read your hub from start to finish, and I have an attention span of a knat. Thank you for doing a great job! :o) Voting up and all that!

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