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Cats and Their Nonchalant Behavior

"Of all God's creatures, there is only one that cannot be made slave of the lash. That one is the cat. If man could be crossed with the cat it would improve the man, but it would deteriorate the cat." - Mark Twain



Cats Choose Us; We Don't Choose Them

I have always loved cats despite being allergic to them. Cats are so beautiful and graceful. You just want to snuggle up with one and love it. I would do that if I didn’t break out in hives and my throat didn’t close up. Even though I have allergies, I still have cats. They are outside cats that get lots of daily attention.

Thomas and Lily are two very cool cats. Thomas makes you think he is not interested in anything, yet he is next to us every time we are in the yard or in our sunroom with him. Lily is sweet, is even tempered, has a purr like a dove, and can be spiteful when crossed. A sweet, spiteful cat? Yes, she is. It is her terms or no terms. Her spite is the reason they are outside cats (and that hive and no breathing thing). Both cats choose when they want us and when they do not. If you do not know this about a cat, your feelings can be hurt very easily by the nonchalant cat that passes you by without a glance.

Cats and Their People

Lily came to us as a pregnant stray. At that time my six year old daughter, also allergic, fell in love with her immediately. Lily was so starved for attention that she accepted the rough holdings and the insistence of being placed under the blankets to snuggle with my daughter. My daughter thinks she chose Lily, but Lily chose her.

When we first got Lily, she was a bit timid. When my daughter literally latched onto her and she allowed it, the rest of us were considered as mere inconveniences. The best I could get out of Lily was a purr when I talked to her as she did the figure eight around my legs as I fed her. Other than that, I could have been a piece of furniture in the room.

One day we left the house, and I shut all the doors to the bedrooms. I didn’t realize I had locked Lily in one of them. When we got home, she shot out of the room, went straight to my husband and my bed and peed on my side. Ever tried to get cat pee out of a mattress? “Okay,” I thought, “I deserved that,” and I let it go.

The next time, I couldn’t let it go. We were having our basement finished. Lily considered this her domain. We had a couch and a love seat and a cat bed for Lily and Thomas. Well, all the nailing and sawing of putting up the walls did not set well with her. I kept smelling something horrible in the room. Finally, the contractor said, “I had to shew your cat off your couch twice today. She was peeing on it.” Then he added that Thomas had taken a turn, too. By this time, the smell was throughout the house. That was the day they became outside cats. I tried to use all types of enzyme cleaning products and had the couch steam cleaned, but the smell would not come out. Lily was mad at us for disrupting her life. Thomas smelled her spots of iniquity, and followed her down the path that led to the door.

Now, you cat lovers don’t think we are mean because they have beds and heat lamps in the garage, and now they have a sunroom that my husband recently added onto our deck. We are with them as much as they allow us to be, which is a lot.


Cats and Dogs

Five years ago we got a pair of miniature Dachshunds, Maggie and Ruby. Thomas is such a big cat with a laid back attitude, but he loves to be babied, which he is. We feared that he would be jealous of Maggie when we brought her home. The breeder told us that Dachshunds love cats and cats love Dachshunds. He was so big and she was so little that we had our doubts.

At first, Maggie was a bit shy of this “tiger” in the backyard. Then he came over to check her out. They started nuzzling each other as if they were long lost siblings. This big cat and tiny puppy loved each other from the beginning. To this day they play games of chase in the yard. It is so much fun to watch Thomas. He looks too cool to play with dogs then all of a sudden he jumps straight up in the air and the chase is one with him crisscrossing jumps over the top of Maggie, taunting her then letting her clean his ears after it is done.


Then there is Ruby. She loves to bark like she is really bad. She will corner Lily, or so she thinks. Then there is a big, “YIPE!” Lily takes one claw, delicately reaches out, and jabs it in Ruby’s hindquarter or maybe on Ruby's nose. Just one “plink” then Lily nonchalantly walks out of the corner, head held high and in no hurry, passing Ruby and her hurt pride as if she didn’t even notice Ruby’s presence.


Cats: the Royal Animal

We love our animals, but our cats are in control of their domain. Their nonchalant attitudes and behaviors are respected at our house. They “allow” us to be a part of their lives. Keeping them fed and giving them attention has much to do with it, but they either love you or simply tolerate you. There is not a thing you can do about it, except keep trying to get into their good graces and love them.

© 2012 Susan Holland


Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 17, 2013:

Cats can be so funny and full of personality. Now the peeing thing isn't funny, though. Nothing like cat pee... almost impossible to get rid of the smell.

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Kas from Bartlett, Tennessee on April 15, 2013:

Lol, I remember when my old cat peanut peed on my floor.....we had to rip the carpet up, because he considered that his domain and continued to pee there over and over! It was bad.

This hub brought back old memories of all of that and reminded me of how weird my mother's cat Bissy is. She seems to forget who I am every time I come to visit and run like crazy from me.....then she remembers and comes running back when she feels like it!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on December 09, 2012:

Oh Lori, that is a great story! You need to expand it into a hub. We pet lovers GET IT completely. They have such personalities. They are such fun and joy to have around.

If you want to share hubs you like, you can click on "HubPage Followers" under the FB, Twitter, and Pin sharing buttons. I hope that helps. It will send hubs out to your followers and into your news feed.

Thanks so much for dropping by! I love your story and can picture it! :-)

By Lori from USA on December 09, 2012:

Nice kitty Hub ! You are right they make good hug-bunnies.

I'm insane for cats {well just look at my photo}, thank goodness I have never met one who peed in retaliation for anything !


When my female cat {a sissy drama-Queen until she's really crossed}, met a chihuahua puppy I thought I was going to keep {it didn't work out}, she actually let that poor puppy crawl painstakingly across the room to her, only to slap it on the head as hard as she could, and fast as a lightening bolt too. The poor puppy, that was just a sad surprise.

And the spoiled brat{my cat}, had watched without taking her eyes off that puppy, the entire time it took him to reach her. Then ,BAM ! But you know, that was her honest feeling, the puppy had intruded on "her" domain.

The puppy decided to turn around and go in the opposite direction...I might have to write a Hub about my cat now. Well, she is in a Hub I wrote about about indoor cats !

I voted this up and am trying to figure out the "share" thing but I don't twitter, {?}

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on October 08, 2012:

Hi FrogFish! Oh, we do love our animals. They are such joys in our lives.

Thanks for dropping by! :-)

frogyfish from Central United States of America on October 07, 2012:

Aw, kitties and cats, I love them all! Glad yours and the dogs love each other. And happy you care for them so well!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on May 03, 2012:

Hi Trish, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Spot! Your story of Sasha makes my heart hurt for you, and I relate because we had to take two of our older pups in to do the same. Such a sad, sad thing to say goodbye to a wonderful loved one. I am so glad your granddaughter wanted to honor Sasha's memory by having another kitten that looked like her. Children and pets are such a joy. Thanks so much for sharing your story! :-)

trish1048 on April 28, 2012:

Hi sholland10,

I share your love of cats and dogs. I've owned them all my life. Every last one of them was a rescue, either from a shelter, or from someone whose cat had kittens.

Sadly, I recently lost my oldest cat Sasha, who was 19, back in October. She wasn't acting sick, but her behaviors became out of character, such as peeing in places she never had before. She had also taken to hiding in places she never had before. In any case, when we took her to the vet, he said, yes, it's time. Her mind is pretty much gone. The decision was made we would all go together, my 10 yr old granddaughter included. In the last two years or so of Sasha's life, she and my granddaughter developed a deep bond. My guess is because by then, my granddaughter wasn't doing what very young children do with pets :). A very sad occasion indeed.

My granddaughter had been wanting a dog, so after two or so years of pleading, we acquiesed and said ok, let's go look for a dog. We had several trips to shelters, but although there were many cute, friendly dogs, we didn't find quite the right fit. Then my granddaughter announced, let's get a cat instead. I want a black and white one just like Sasha. Her mom said are you sure? Do we want to have a ghost of Sasha? Well, Jess (my granddaughter) put her hand on her hip, and said, Mom. Ghosts are white, not white and black lol.

Anyway, we went and found a woman who had black and white kittens, and we picked a little boy, who Jess decided to name Spot. Before I write a book here, let's just say he is a totally delightful, energetic and crazy cat. He is loved beyond belief. I so identified with your daughter latching on to the cat. That is exactly what Jess did, and this little boy allowed it, although reluctantly. She kidnaps him all the time, holds him under her blankets, carries him everywhere, and his attitude is ohhh, ok, I'll deal with it :)

He is coming up on is 1st birthday, and I'm sure there's going to be a party, complete with hats and streamers.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I enjoyed the read.

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 06, 2012:

Hi Cookies! Yes, I had to find a way to keep them. Allergies aren't fun, but I would hate to let them get in the way of having our cats. Sounds like you kitties have unique personalities, just like mine. :-) Thanks for dropping by!

cookies4breakfast from coastal North Carolina on April 06, 2012:

I love your hub, and I feel so bad for you with those allergies! Good for you for finding a way to keep them in your life. We only have two cats now. Our boy is the king (diva), and he will just stare at you as you call to him. Our little girl cat is the opposite and is just like a sweet, playful puppy--and she's over 15 years old! Voted up and thanks for sharing.

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 02, 2012:

Kelly, same here. I talk to my cats everyday, but I don't always touch them. They seem fine with that most times. Our cats rule, too. It is so funny to watch one of our doxies antagonizing one of the cats. The cat will just sit there like, "Really? Again? You bore me." Then if it goes to long both cats are good about taking just one claw and "Plinking" one of the dogs on the butt. One little yelp and it is over. LOL

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 02, 2012:

Flora, so glad to hear from you!! You DO love your cat to weather the "storms" for her to get her food. I hate when I haven't noticed I am low on cat or dog food. It automatically goes to the top of my list of things to do with a big URGENCY asterisk next to it.

Thanks for dropping by! :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 02, 2012:

Moonlake, I am with you. We have always had all our animals fixed before 6 months. I think female cats must have a lot of estrogen to be so "moody." LOL Our tomcat is the most laid back guy. Our female can be, but watch out if you have upset her world in any way... :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on April 02, 2012:

Thanks, PrairiePrincess! Yep, I am just an ole chair when they are not in the mood for my affections. LOL

Kelly Umphenour from St. Louis, MO on April 01, 2012:

I have a cat - and I'm fine as long as I wash my hands as soon as I'm done petting her - but I get little hives if I touch her too's really sad because it makes me not interact with her so freely. But she's smart - I think she knows ... She runs the dogs too - all thee are deathly afraid of her!

Up and awesome hub again!

Flora Breen Robison on April 01, 2012:

You got love cats to be allergic and have them. Lets hear it for our cats! I serve Amy. I ran out of cat food yesterday and the weather was horrible, but I walked to the store anyway. She wanted to eat ASAP and couldn't wait until a ride was available. Of course, I obliged, inappropriate footwear and all.

moonlake from America on April 01, 2012:

We stopped long ago getting female cats. They do seem to pee in the house. Our males never have as long as their neutered by the time their 6 months old. I don’t know what it is with a female maybe they get stressed easily.

Enjoyed reading your hub.

Sharilee Swaity from Canada on April 01, 2012:

Sholland, I agree that they are royal animals. I have three cats and they are so much fun and so unpredictable. I love how you compare yourself to a piece of furniture. I have often said that our cats think of us a tables that they can walk upon while we are in bed. Great hub!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on March 06, 2012:

Perspy, thanks for sharing. It sounds like Mau-Mau and Manolie have things under control at your house. LOL

Thanks for dropping by, sharing, and voting! :-)

Demas W Jasper from Today's America and The World Beyond on March 05, 2012:

Hard to believe I haven't found this one of your Hubs before, having written a whole book on HP about ours and some quail. Mau-Mau (terrorist) runs our household and we are devoted subjects to his whims, and when Manolie doesn't meet his expectations, he literally boxes her. Ah well, the Egyptians had it right. They are gods, or surely think they are! Fortunately, ours likes only dried cat food, having grown up on dried dog food. None of that fancy gourmet stuff which is beneath his dignity...though he does like the juice from a can of tuna. Up and lofty.

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 29, 2012:

So true, Sueswan! They are so different! LOL

Thanks for dropping by and the votes! :-)

Sueswan on February 28, 2012:

Hi Sholland,

Dogs look for our acceptance and cats well they don't care. lol.

Voted up and awesome.

Take Care

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 28, 2012:

Hi MojoDawg! Thanks for sharing about your wonderful feline friends. It sounds like you acted like my husband did when we had our first cat... He didn't think he liked them either. Thanks so much for dropping by and voting! :-)

MojoDawg from Fort Worth Texas on February 28, 2012:

This is a delightful hub about the most unique pets anyone could have, we have Ashley (our old female cat) and Moses a 8 year old male. They are different as night and day and as you have so aptly stated they are a "force to be reckoned with".

I never liked cats until we adopted Ashley from the neighbors (just a kitten)and our kids were still home so it worked out. I was kind of like a cat pretending I didn't care for them but I cave into loving cats out in the open. We got "Moses the cat" on Valentine's Day a few years later and Ashley adopted him as her boy.

Cat people and their purrrrrrring friends both know who "really rules the roost". Love your hubs, voting up! Blessings

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 24, 2012:

Cclitgirl, thanks for sharing! I hope you found something to get the smell out. We now have a sunroom with a cat door. It is wonderful. You are so right about disrupting their routines. I didn't mean to mess with Lily's world, but she let me know I had. LOL We sure do love them, too. Thanks for dropping by and the votes! :-)

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on February 23, 2012:

This is a cute hub. I had a stray that adopted us and he liked to go to the bathroom right beside the front door. So, the house would wreak. We finally figured out that he wanted access in and out whenever he wanted, and promptly stopped marking as soon as we put a cat door in. Not that this would help your situation, I just think those guys hate it when their routine gets disrupted. But, I couldn't live without them! I love those kitties! :)

Thanks for a great hub! Voted up and across. :)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 22, 2012:

Augus, yes, they do seem to always look innocent even when they aren't. LOL

Thanks for dropping by!!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 22, 2012:

Melovy, even though I have allergies, I have always had cats. Just love them too much. What you describe as your cat shouting at you to come back is just what Thomas does. He is the most quiet cat, but about once a day when he wants us to stay where he is, he makes himself known (and, yes, we give in and stay with him - lol).

Thank you for dropping by! :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 22, 2012:

Scribenet, it is so hard to NOT fall in love with a kitten. I have tried when we have been over-run with strays at my house, but I can't do it. Even an adult cat is beautiful and graceful, and I can't imagine mistreating one. I am glad you have a great companion with your cat. They are full of personality and part of the family.

Thanks for dropping by! :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 22, 2012:

Frog Prince, I know we love our Doxies, but our cats are pretty loyal to us. When we go outside, with or without food, they come running and want to stay with us. My brother has a cat - looks like a big Sylvester cat - and that cat is FIERCELY loyal to my brother. As a matter of fact, I would go as far as saying my brother is the only one who can pick him up and pet him. The cat has hissed at me when I hugged my brother. I think in this one case, that cat is possessed. LOL I mean, who couldn't love me... LOL Seriously, the cat won't let anybody next to my brother if he is nearby. Maybe I should write a hub about Buddy the cat. LOL

Thanks for dropping by! :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 22, 2012:

M0rd0r, I was raised with a black cat. Her name was Misty, and she was the queen. I love the little kitty face you made. I will have to remember that. Thanks for dropping by and voting!! :-)

Agus Fanani on February 22, 2012:

A beautiful story about cats. I like cats because of very domesticated, cute and always look innocent.

Yvonne Spence from UK on February 22, 2012:

How interesting to read about your cats. Lily sounds like quite a character! What a pity you are allergic to them when you love them so much.

I’ve lived with cats most of my life, and there’s definitely degrees of nonchalance, from downright aloof to one of our current cats who follows us when we go out and meows at us as if she’s shouting at us to come back. (But maybe that’s just our interpretation!) My childhood cat was similar: he’d occasionally follow us all the way to school or to someone’s house and wait till we came out!

Thanks for this fun hub.

Maggie Griess from Ontario, Canada on February 21, 2012:

I have always loved cats and dogs. I have had my current cat for three and a half years from since he was a little kitten and I enjoy his personality every day and still think he is as beautiful as the first time I laid eyes on him!

The Frog Prince from Arlington, TX on February 21, 2012:

Susan - I'll keep my white boxer dog. He's loyal. Cats are only loyal at feeding time, though they do keeps the rats down when I've lived in the country.

The Frog

Stoill Barzakov from Sofia, Bulgaria on February 21, 2012:

Nyan! Very funny :3

I am a black cat person and know everything you said scratched ... erm ... written on my hands =^_^=

Voted up and funny :)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 21, 2012:

Hildred, aren't they fun just to observe. Thomas and Lily love for my daughter and husband to pet them, and they purr when I talk to them everyday. Lily is a Miss Priss with a stubborn streak, and Thomas is the cool cat who loves to play with the dogs when he thinks we aren't looking. LOL Sounds like you have quite a variety of personalities, too.

Thanks for sharing your cats personalities! :-)

I appreciate you dropping by! :-)

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 21, 2012:

Thanks, ALocsin! I think cats are more independent than dogs. I love both, though!

Thanks for dropping by and the votes!! :-)

hildred from Oregon, USA on February 21, 2012:

This was a fun hub to read with great pictures. Thomas especially looks so petable! Cats definitely have their own personalities. In my house we have four cats - my mother's cats, the lazy-needy tom who will 180 at the moment the porch needs protecting and the disabled girl who lives in her own Twilight Zone world. Then there are my cats, the Princess and the Tomboy (who hate each other, of course). Hannah, the tomboy, especially likes to play a game of chase with me where she'll lead me all around the yard in play until finally spilling over and letting me pet her. And then she quickly turns needy. oh, cats.

Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on February 20, 2012:

I owned dogs as a kid primarily because they were very playful and interactive. I think I would prefer cats now that I'm older precisely because they are more non-chalant and don't require as much attention. Great examples with your dachshunds and cats. Voting this Up and Interesting.

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 20, 2012:

Thanks, Tammy! LOL It sounds like you had cats similar to mine. They definitely have character and attitude. I love their independence too.

Thanks for dropping by!! :-)

Tammy from North Carolina on February 20, 2012:

Awwwww.... I am a cat lover. I had a special pound cat for many, many years. I also had a ragdoll and she was so snotty. She would be a lap cat every now and then. Now I am living in an apartment and can't have pets. I do feed four strays and they all have their personality quirks. I love their independance. Great hub!

Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 20, 2012:

Awww, Bob, I'm sorry you had to leave them. I wish I could love on mine more.

You are right about how they get lost. We live in the country and have had to go get one out of the field or the trees a time or two. Now it is their stomping grounds, and they rule. We get the "gifts" on the porch quite a bit. We have to watch for them on account of the pups.

Thanks so much for dropping by! :-)

diogenes from UK and Mexico on February 20, 2012:

Hi: Shame about the allergy. I have mentioned elsewhere my "pride" of cats I had up unto 2003 in Baja. I began with one, Sheba, and ended with 17! It was a long affair - about 4 years - but I loved each and every one for their distinct personalities. I never had them pee indoors. I can't say why that happens, although it is common. It's a thin line between a domestic puss and a feral cat. My sweeties loved me and respected me as pride leader in so many ways.

They are independent but can be more fragile than we think. Cats get lost easily, for example, often just a few hundred yards from home. And they are very giving: my bunch used to bring me lizards and birds and even a small rattler one happy day! Dead.

Well, i could go on but it makes me sad because I miss them and in the end i had to leave them.


Susan Holland (author) from Southwest Missouri on February 20, 2012:

Thanks, Fpherj! There are no two cats that are alike... I truly believe that. They are so unique, and they are interesting character to have around.

I will go check my e-mail. :-)

Thanks for dropping by and the votes!! :-)

Suzie from Carson City on February 20, 2012:

Looks like I'm first in line....I too, am a cat (and dog) lover. I have 2 of each and they are loved and treated like family...which of course, they ARE! Cats are "Tommy,"(the Trouble-maker) and "Patch," (Princess Prickly")....what has always amazed me about cats is their very individually unique personalities. Have never had one cat like another.

They are definitely "aloof," and extremely egotistical....but know how to get exactly what they want.

This is a wonderful hub on your fur babies, Susan! Up and awesome.

(I wrote that hub we talked about and sent you a link...maybe you haven't checked your mail in a while?)

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