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8 Reasons Why Your Cat Won't Sleep With You


Cats are notoriously independent creatures. They like to do their own thing, and they don't need your help to do it. That's why they don't always want to sleep with their owners in the same bed—even though you might have thought that sleeping together was a tradition as old as time itself. We're here to set the record straight: Cats and humans can coexist peacefully without having to be spooning each other every night (and morning).

But if you're wondering why your cat refuses to sleep in the same bed as you, we have some ideas. Read on for seven reasons why your cat won't sleep with you.

1. Your cat might be a "lone wolf."

Some cats are simply independent. They like their own space and don't want to be bothered by their humans at night.

Some cats are not affectionate animals, either. It's true of our species as well: Some people prefer to be alone than spend time with others—and your cat may be one of them!

Some cats don't like being touched or held for too long, so it's probably better if you try to let them doze off on their own instead of having them in place while they're sleeping (unless they make it clear that this is what they'd prefer).

Most importantly, some cats aren't social animals. They don't mind being alone most of the time or spending time away from other pets—and if that's how your cat feels, there probably isn't much you can do about it!

2. Your bed is not fluffy enough.

Cats love soft things. They like to snuggle into a fluffy bed or a pile of cushions that you put on the floor for them. If your cat is not sleeping with you in your bed, it could be because they don't find the mattress comfortable enough to sleep on.

There are lots of ways to make your bed more comfortable. You can add a blanket or pillow under the sheets, which will help if your cat likes digging their claws into something when they're asleep!

You could even buy yourself some new pillows if these ideas don't work - make sure they are small enough that they won't hurt anyone's back!

3. Feline instinct causes cats to hunt at night.

Cats are naturally nocturnal. This means they're more active at night and might crawl under the covers while you're asleep. But in general, they won't want to sleep near you because they are natural hunters and are most active at night when their prey is most active.

Another reason why cats don't sleep with their owners is that they worry about being seen or attacked by other predators like raccoons, owls, or even humans!

4. It's too cold.

Your cat might not want to sleep with you because it's too cold. Cats are sensitive to temperature and often choose warmer spots over cooler ones.

If your house tends to stay very warm or cool, this can affect your cat's decision-making regarding where they want to rest their head at night.

If the temperature in your home is more on the cool side, consider sleeping with an extra blanket next time you sleep with your kitty so that you can help keep them warm.

If you don't have any blankets on hand, try using a space heater or turning up the thermostat to increase the overall temperature of your room before bedtime.

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5. You're keeping your cat awake.

Cats have a circadian rhythm that's more like ours than you might think. Like us, they are nocturnal, so they sleep during the day and hunt at night.

If you wake up early to make coffee or watch the news and disturb your cat, it will be grumpy when you get up in the morning—or even later in the day!

Try setting the alarm for an hour before dawn so you can get extra shut-eye without disturbing your feline companion.


6. Your Cat Prefers Their Own Bed.

Some cats like to be alone, and that's okay! Your cat may prefer her own bed or even a different corner of the bedroom. If you're finding that your cat avoids sleeping in your room altogether, it might be because she prefers having her own space.

There are several reasons why cats are more comfortable with their personal space:

  • They don't want to feel crowded by humans or other animals (especially dogs)
  • They don't like to share food or litter boxes with other pets
  • They enjoy having a safe place where they can relax and unwind without worrying about being pestered by others

7. Your Cat Doesn't Like Your Smell.

Cats have an excellent sense of smell. They can detect odors up to 10 miles away, which means your cat may not be able to tell that you've just showered or used fabric softener on your bedding.

Even if you haven't done anything differently and still smell like yourself, sometimes all it takes is for your cat to recognize the scent of their own fur in their bedding to make them think an unwelcome stranger has invaded their bed.

If you let your cat sleep with you, consider having separate blankets and sheets for each household member so that no one's scents get mixed up in the laundry basket or hamper.

8. Cats Have Their Own Opinions, so If They Don't Want to Sleep with You, You Can't Force Them.

You can't force your cat to sleep with you. Cats are independent creatures and make their own choices, so they may not want to sleep with you. If they don't want to sleep with you, that's okay!

You can try helping them adjust by creating an environment where they feel comfortable. Cats are creatures of habit and will do what they are used to, so if your cat has been sleeping in your bed for years, it may be difficult for them to adapt to their preferences.


Cats are unique creatures, and each cat has their own personality. Even if you try your best to make them happy, there is no guarantee that they will sleep with you. If your cat is content with resting on its own bed or in another room, don't worry about it! Your cat will be fine without your company at night time; after all, they've been doing it for thousands of years before you came along.

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